Random Ramble: 2017 Word of the Year – COMMIT

2017: Word of the Year – COMMIT

Recently I joined a Facebook group: Blogging 101, and the admin, Nicole Floss of UniquelyWomen.net, asked “Today is the last day of 2016! Have you chosen a word for 2017? Mine was: COMMIT

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I didn’t start this project to make money, but obviously I would love for it to be successful. But what is my measurement for success? I’m not really sure. At first it was simply to do it. To blog. Literally, the idea (to blog about doing 30Day Challenges) came one night at the end of Aug2016 when I couldn’t go to sleep and the next day I pulled the trigger, because if I didn’t, then I never would. I had no idea what I was doing and I still don’t.

I’ve made goals for each of the 30Day Challenges I chose, and today I realize that I never made goals for this blog.  With the new year, I feel it’s the perfect time. If I’m going to commit my time, energy and heart into 30DayChallengeAccepted, I need milestones to work towards.

So here are 3 measureable goals.

  • Blog site – more consistent views per week and per month.  Since I don’t post daily, I’ll have to figure out the story behind my statistics, but it goes without saying that driving traffic requires me to posts regularly and market through networking.
  • Facebook – Have 200 followers by the end of the year.  Currently I’m at 34
  • Instagram – Have 200 followers by the end of the year.  Currently I’m at 28.

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TREADMILL 28-30/30: Epic Fail (with Challenge Review)

… ONE MONTH LATER…

Epic Fail

I wish that was a joke. There I was after Day 27 of this 30 day challenge, one step away from the finish line… and I gave up. Embarrassingly, I’m not even bothering to finish up this 30 Day Treadmill Challenge.  Talk about a FAIL.

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The obvious truth is that I plainly lost interest in this challenge.  I could easily blame that things at work and at home got busy (they did!), but that would be lame.  However, although I can’t claim that I’ve kept to an alternate regular exercise routine these past 4-5weeks, I have tried to be less lazy.  I’ve even used the treadmill, but didn’t follow the Refinery29 program. I was simply over this specific program.

Day28
“Hills: Run Flat (1) + Incline Run (1) + Walk Flat (1), x6”
NOPE!

Day29
“Walk (1) + Run (3), x5”
NADA!

Day30
“Pyramids: Brisk Walk, Increase Pace 0.2 Every Minute to Run (5), Then Reverse, x2”
BYE FELICIA.

 

Review of the Refinery 29’s 30 Day Treadmill Challenge

It’s doable but cumbersome

As mentioned at the half-way mark, the challenge itself is achievable regardless of what fitness level you are.  Whatever speed you consider is a “walk” vs a “run” is up to you.  So, you can challenge yourself further by pushing yourself to a fast speed.  In general, the daily routine was 20-30minutes max, and would get your heart moving. However, the adjustments with speed and/or incline with the short time durations were just annoying.  Having to keep track and manually change the settings messed with my groove.  It just added to my excuses for not wanting to do this challenge.

 

In closing, here are the goals I listed when I started this challenge:

  • to complete this challenge as close to 30 days as possible
    • unmet
  • to feel comfortable in my clothes again
    • unmet
  • stop being so good at making excuses
    • unmet
  • be more active with my kids
    • partially met
      • I found myself being a bit less lazy with my kids.  This means little things like using our free time to run around at the park or simply walking to school instead of driving.  We do yoga and dance games together, and while the weather is still cooperative, we go for a easy hike.  They have so much energy, and I just try to steal some of it.
  • go beyond 30 days and make exercise part of my lifestyle
    • unmet.
      • Truth is, these daily challenges weren’t enough.  20minutes on a treadmill used to be my warm-up before using machines or  free weights and/or isometric exercises.  You could argue that I should’ve performed this current challenge by making it part of a larger routine, but I wanted to try this as a one-off. Also, its hard enough for me to find a way to steal 30minutes from may days, let alone a full-hour.

 

CHALLENGE: TREADMILL – ✖️ INCOMPLETE

 

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TREADMILL 25-27/30: Why is This Not Over Yet?


Why is This Not Over Yet?

I hate this challenge.

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Correction – I hate how much I’m failing at this challenge. It’s just embarrassing.  I actually want to end right here and move onto another challenge.  But watch me never complete the next one too! So, I’m going to see this through, despite how disappointed I am in myself.

I already preempted that 30 Days of the Treadmill will be a challenge because I don’t prioritize exercising in my schedule.  I want to. I tried to. But it’s not happening. So Day25-27 took almost two weeks to do (TWO WEEKS?! i had to double check the dates); which is frankly pathetic.

Day25
“Walk (2) + Run (2), x5”
take1-5
Didn’t feel well
take6
Done. Wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.

Day26
“Rest or Cross Training”
why even bother?

Day27
“Walk (1) + Run (2), x6”
take1-X?
i don’t even know how many days I skipped?! Halloween with toddlers is a buzy time (<-lame excuse)
takeX?
Done.

 

Want to read all 30 Days of the Treadmill Challenge?  View the Overview page HERE

BLOGGING 30/30: I Actually Did It!

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 30 of 30

I Actually Did It!

My first published post was on 08/09/16.  It took me 33 days to complete this challenge, and I’m not mad at that.  I still can’t believe I actually did it! When I say “it” I mean both 1) a 30 day challenge and 2) blogging.

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I’ve tried, but I’ve never completed a 30 day challenge on anything.  Now I can say that I have!  And I created a blog with no knowledge of how.  Here I am… 30 posts under my belt! I couldn’t have done it without the guidance of Sark eMedia’s program.

Here are 5 reasons I think this worked for me:

1. Daily Emails

Blogging sounds like it would be easy, but there’s an art to it if you actually want to see success. The daily emails by Sarah Arrow helped me navigate the world of blogging. The resources she provides were relevant, easy to follow and executable. Before I started, I was already behind – because I was blogging blindly.  There were a few days I skipped.  But each morning an email popped in my inbox, reminding me of why I decided to start this particular challenge.

2. Goals

On Day4 I laid out my personal goals with this challenge.  Goal One was to make and maintain my own space, on the web and in my life, giving myself a creative outlet and stimulating my brain in a way I felt I was missing. I’ve done it by dedicating time each day to enjoy the process of writing.  Goal Two was to be able to put it on my resume.  Blogging is a key element to inbound marketing and building businesses in today’s world. Through this practice, I better understand Wordpress, SEO writing and optimization.

3. Community Support

I have my personal motivators, but was extremely shy about making my blog public.  Sarah Arrow provides a safe space through her Facebook Group page where 30 Day Blogging Challengers share their daily post, and get feedback from one another.  I was so scared that I didn’t join until day7 with my post “Confession: I’m a Closet Blogger“, but since then I’ve shared all my posts.  I’m still taking baby steps out of the closet to the outside world, but have been less reluctant because of the constructive input. There are some amazingly supportive bloggers out there and I’m proud to be part of this community.

4. I enjoy writing

I guess I always have, but I didn’t realize how much.  So I’ve rediscovered my joy of writing.  I’m not the type that likes to hear myself talk, but when I start to type, it flows out of me.  I even created an extra category and posted a bonus blog.  To be able to put structure to my thoughts has been meditative and trying to make my words resonate to a audience besides myself makes me feel productive.

5. Not a business (yet)

My intent going into this was not to make money.  I know blogs have the ability to be monetized, and lucratively.  My objective on the onset has been to create valuable content.  But with Sark eMedia’s lessons, I have the tools available once the opportunity to make this something more presents itself and then I can work even harder to become the boss in my blogging niche.

So, this is the end of my first 30 Day Challenge.  The Blogging Challenge was the perfect challenge to start this side project. I learned so much about myself, which was my purpose for doing challenges.

If you’ve followed me through this journey so far, THANK YOU (you know who you are!). There’s more to come as I continue onto the next one.  So join me for my the next 30 Day Challenge.

 

CHALLENGE: BLOGGING – ✔️ COMPLETED

 

 

BLOGGING 29/30: Onto the Next One

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 29 of 30

Onto The Next One

Yesterday on my personal Facebook page I posted an inquiry to my friends: “Looking for my next 30 day challenge.  any suggestions?” The immediate responses weren’t a surprise – fitness, diet, fitness, diet, fitness.

When I started this blog I had to pick my first 30 Day Challenge; blogging wasn’t an obvious choice, but it was the best decision I made.  But even at that time, when I wasn’t exactly sure I’d complete 30 days of blogging, I was already wondering what I should do for my next challenge.  Now, here I am, almost at the end of my first challenge! And still not sure what to do next.

I decided to create some criteria for my challenge selection:

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  • Must be self-improving
    • Whether its for my health/body or mind or soul, I want to learn something new
  • Established
    • I’m not looking to create my own 30 Day program.  I’m looking for a challenge that’s already been created, one that other people have tried or have been wanting to try.
  • Free
    • For now, I don’t want to consider paid-programs.

I have a few under consideration, some typical and some a bit out-of-the box. Do you have a suggestion? Comment below! The great thing about 30 Day challenges is that they’re only 30 days. So I know whatever I pass on now, I can bank it for the future.

Stay tuned…

 

Want to read all 30 Days of the Blogging Challenge?  View the Overview page HERE

BLOGGING 28/30: The Write Stuff

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 28 of 30

The Write Stuff

For today’s 30 Day Blogging Challenge post, I’ve been torn.  I had a topic I want to write about, but it has nothing to do with my experience with learning to blog. It was about my experience as a mom that I needed to get out of my head and writing it was cathartic – it’s yoga for my brain.  But it didn’t fit with the context of this specific challenge. It wasn’t the right stuff.

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Even though I’m a planner and have an editorial calendar to reference, sometimes there’s not enough content for a certain topic or it’s just not interesting enough for me to write about and therefore would be a struggle for you to read.  If I don’t enjoy writing it, you won’t enjoy reading it. So why waste both of our time?

My goal with each of my posts is to incorporate the blogging perspective, whether it was about dating vs job searching or suggesting my daughter quit piano, and I feel I’ve been successful.  But not today!  So, I decided to create a new category called Random Rambles – for those moments when I have something that has nothing to do with the current 30 Day Challenge.

Today’s Random Ramble topic: Five Types of Mommy Friends – Part of motherhood I didn’t anticipate was having to make friends as an adult. My mom friends fit into 5 groups

Do you like how I turned my obstacle into an opportunity?

And I’m not going to cheat and count this as two posts. 😜

 

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Random Ramble: Five Types of Mommy Friends

RANDOM RAMBLE:

Five Types of Mommy Friends

30 Day Challenge Random Rambles Five Types of Mom Friends

I’ve been a mom for about 6 years now, and the part of motherhood I didn’t anticipate was having to make friends as an adult in the name of your child.  It hasn’t been all fun, sometimes not too different from the dramatics that tv shows and movies portray. I’ve found I can categorize my mom friends into 5 groups.

1. The OG Mom Friend

These are the friends that were your friends before you were pregnant and that got pregnant around the same time you did. Your kids are around the same age.  Your kids get along. You share hilarious stories and pictures.  You can talk about the taboo topics with no restraint.  Being moms has made your friendship stronger.

 2. The New Mom Friend

These are the friends you made as a result of having children.  The mom you met at a mommy-and-me class, a playdate, or school.  Your kids get along. You parent similarly. You’re both from the neighborhood.  You share information about local events and even sign up for things and go together. She’s the mom you can count on to help with the kids with emergency pick-up, and vice versa. And if you’re lucky, you don’t even mind hanging out with her without the kids.

 3. THAT-Mom Friend

More of an acquaintance.  Usually once your kid is in a full-time program that has a affiliate parent organization of which they’re highly involved.  Maybe a bit too involved.  You see them at playdates, birthday parties, local events.  You’re friendly. Your kids know of each other, but don’t ask to have playdates. A playdate would probably end up being a solicitation session anyways.

 4. I-don’t-want-to-be-your-Friend Friend

a. The aggressive type that has a kid the same age, or just a bit younger.  She constantly insists on playdates, and always comments about how great your kids are when they’re together.  Every conversation is an interrogation about what you’ve done with your child, are doing with your child, and are planning to do.  You eventually see them at the same extracurricular activities. Coincidence or not? You’re not sure. You shamefully find yourself making efforts to avoid them and their child.

b. the kid is aggressive and you don’t want your kid around that behavior because your parenting style is very different from their mom’s.

5. The Non-Mom Friend

This is the friend who does not yet have a child of their own, but is incredible with your kids. She makes time to play with your kids. Is hands-on, and your kids love her. Will even offer to watch the munchkins so you can have some time to yourself.  She’s also the friend who will make sure you have mommy-free time. She plans the girl’s night you need and is the drinking buddy therapist you didn’t realize you needed.  She will listen to your endless ramblings about being a mom, with no judgement. And in the end, will tell you what a great mom she thinks you are.

Do you have these type of mommy friends? Or what would you add to the list?

Which mommy friend are you?

 

BLOGGING 27/30: Shocking Results

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 27 of 30

Shocking Results

On Day26 of the 30 Day Blogging Challenge I mentioned wanting to take a career aptitude test but couldn’t find a good free version online.  In the comments section Jenny Monzon shared two links: HumanMetrics and 16Personalities. My results shocked me! I’m an “extravert”??

 

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Reading the personality type descriptions for ENFJ and ESFJ was like reading my horoscope or, like I mentioned in Day19, inspirational quotes.  I took what I liked and felt better about myself.

Here are 10 excerpts from the summaries… with my commentary:

  1. have tremendous charisma by which many are drawn into their nurturant tutelage 😊
  2. can juggle an amazing number of responsibilities or projects simultaneously 💪
  3. with whom we associate organization and decisiveness 👊
  4. apt to neglect themselves and their own needs for the needs of others 🙁
  5. enjoy supporting their friends and loved ones, organizing social gatherings and doing their best to make sure everyone is happy 👯
  6. love to be of service, enjoying any role that allows them to participate in a meaningful way, so long as they know that they are valued and appreciated 💞
  7. make loyal and devoted partners and parents 👫
  8. respect hierarchy, and do their best to position themselves with some authority, at home and at work, which allows them to keep things clear, stable and organized for everyone 📋
  9. truly enjoy hearing about their friends’ relationships and activities, remembering little details and always standing ready to talk things out with warmth and sensitivity 📱📲
  10. Coming to terms with their sensitivity is ESFJs’ biggest challenge 😶

 

In terms of career, this is what they say and I wish I could just put the summaries as attachments to my resume:

  1. often find themselves in occupations that require good interpersonal skills to establish productive collaboration as well as to establish or maintain effective work process
  2. many ENFJs found among mid- and high-rank management roles
  3. lead with practical sense and social vigor
  4. well-organized, enjoying bringing order and structure to their workplaces, and often work best in environments with clear, predictable hierarchies and tasks
  5. need human interaction and emotional feedback to be truly satisfied in their line of work
  6. Good listeners and enthusiastic team members
  7. are comfortable with authority, but are supportive and friendly enough to keep that authority from feeling overbearing

Apparently here are the job roles or industries my personality is suited for:

  • management position at a academic university
  • personal accountant
  • religious work
  • counseling
  • teacher
  • medical/healthcare
  • social work

This is all very different from being a media planner at small ad agencies, and explains a lot about why I feel like I’m going down a path I’m not meant for. What I’m going to do with this insightful information, I’m not sure yet.  How blogging fits into this, I can manipulate.

I invite you to take one of these tests now and let me know what you take away from it.

 

Want to read all 30 Days of the Blogging Challenge?  View the Overview page HERE

source:

  • http://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/enfj
  • http://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/enfj-careers
  • https://www.16personalities.com/esfj-personality
  • https://www.16personalities.com/esfj-careers

BLOGGING 26/30: Making a List…

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 26 of 30

Making a List…

One of the great things having worked at a small advertising agency was working with small businesses.  One that I had the pleasure to work with during their infancy was a small batch vodka producer out of Austin, Texas. You may have heard of the pioneer in micro-distilling: Tito’s Handemade Vodka. Managing their media meant getting to share Tito’s story.  This was my favorite part:

 I had worked in the oil, gas and mortgage industries around the same time I’d been infusing vodkas for my friends as Christmas presents. When rates went up, it killed my business and left me at a point of wondering what to do next. I saw this guy on television who said that if you’re trying to figure out what to do in life you need to take a sheet of paper, draw a line down the middle, and on one side list things you like to do and on the other side list what you’re good at. And then you basically build a job where you’re able to incorporate as many things from those lists as possible. I realized I’d been working all these other jobs so I could basically go out and eat and drink well. I was trying to make money so that I could enjoy the hospitality industry. So I thought it’d be genius if I got in the hospitality industry. After looking at my sheet I said, “I’m going to get into the liquor business.”

(source: http://imbibemagazine.com/q-a-with-tito-beveridge/)

When I came out of my blogging closet and shared my new blogging hobby with an author friend, Alecia Whitaker, she made a comment on my first post  “Maybe you suffer at being good at too many things. One of those things is probably your path, but when you can succeed at so much, the white noise can drown out your true gift.” It reminded me of my client’s story.

So here’s my list:

Things I Like To Do Things I’m Good At
excursions with my family coordinating/organizing
reading a good book working in a team
learning learning
plan vacations following instructions/recipes
dinners with friends reading maps
quiet/alone time analyzing/comparing

In high school I remember taking a career aptitude test, but don’t remember my results.  But who I was then (busy being lazy) is different from who I am now.  I’ve tried “free” versions online.  I’m actually considering to pay for a legit one (any suggestions??).  Having been job searching the past year, I know the position I’m searching for within the industry I’ve been in. I know what I can do successfully to get a paycheck. But I want more than just a j-o-b.

What career do you think encompasses my list?

When can I put blogging on that list?

 

Want to read all 30 Days of the Blogging Challenge?  View the Overview page HERE

BLOGGING 23/30: The Hump

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 23 of 30

The Hump

It took me almost three days to write my post for Day22 (“Who’s The Boss?”).  I didn’t really know what I was writing about, so my confidence with my content wasn’t there.  It took me a while to “research” the topic, which just caused me to get lost in the (inter)net. And I’m mid-marathon of Narcos on Netflix, which is taking up my evenings (especially because the subtitles don’t allow for multi-tasking).  Then funnily enough, today’s 30 Day Blogging Challenge task was overcoming “blogger’s block”.  Sark eMedia can read my mind!

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Today’s daily Challenge email is exactly what I needed.  Even before when I was doing 30 day challenges without logging my progress, I know the intervals between Days started get to longer and longer around 20.  I never got to 30.   I don’t think I even made it to 25, ever.  I could never get over the hump. Why do I stop?

Stopped seeing progress – specifically with this blog, it’s a catch22 for me. I’m too shy to share, so I don’t have a following.  I don’t have a following, so I don’t see response to my blog creation.

No motivation or get bored – yesterday I felt like i was over my head. My hobby got too hard. Luckily yesterday’s post included motivational blogs, so within itself I was revived.

Lose sight of the finish line – I forget there’s a reward at the end of 30 Days.  Today I went back and read Day4 where I wrote out my goals of doing this blog.

So, today is my hump day. But today is over.

“When you feel like quitting. Think about why you started”

 

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