MARRIAGE: Day 19-21 of 30 – I’m a Better Wife Because I’m a Mom

I’m a Better Wife Because I’m a Mom

My role as a wife and a mom is blurred. On Days 19, 20, and 21 of the 30 Day Marriage Challenge I discovered that being a mom makes me a better wife.  As a mom I have to do things myself if I want things done. I have to have patience if I want to teach. And I have to forgive if I want to love. As a wife…

Day 19
Don’t ask him to do any chores or honey-dos.

Besides making money to pay the bills, his “chore” is taking out the trash. Mostly because I prefer not to go outside. During the nice months, he takes it upon himself to do the outside work. So, I don’t have to ask him to do anything.  I do, however, leave hints. Today, no hints. šŸ˜‰

As for the “honey-do” list, I had never heard of this until recently.  I know I’m not the only woman out there who also plays the role of handy[wo]man in their house. I may need him for the heavy-lifting, but I’m usually the one with a screwdriver, hammer, caulk, snake or plunger.  When we started building our house, he even bought me a drill.  I love to DIY.

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Day 20
Today’s focus: Patience

I’m a very patient person. However, I lose it when my husband’s driving. I have zero patience for his inconsiderate driving – from unnecessary lane changes, to cutting people off, to merging last minute to exit. It drives me nuts, and I’m not quiet about it. Unfortunately, today was a day we commuted to work together. To distract myself from being a passenger-seat driver, I closed my mouth and focused on liking and commenting on Instagram – come join me.

Day 21
Forgive him when he makes a mistake.

Is it possible, he hasn’t made a mistake today (yet)? Regardless, whatever trivial mistake he would make, I’m generally a forgiving person. I will let him know I think he made a mistake.  But I learned long ago that forgiveness is easier than staying angry. I will end this post like yesterday, with a quote:

“Forgiving someone may cost you your pride, but not forgiving them will cost you your freedom.” Because holding onto anger only hurts you, not them. Speak your piece. Then have peace. 

Most wives will say they have a man-child as a husband or include their husband in the # of children. I am one of those.  However, the skills I’ve grown to improve as a mom are helping my marriage.

Super mom. Super wife. Super woman.

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