Happy Un-Valentine’s Day
It’s February. Valentine’s Day is a week away. The last time my husband and I celebrated was probably the first year we dated, 18 years ago. After our 1-year anniversary we decided not to do any presents for any celebrations (birthdays, holidays, etc.) but to simply get gifts for any reason at any time just because, and to just be together on designated special dates. It’s worked out great – no expectations, no pressure, saved money, headache and heartache.
So why did I choose the 30 Day Marriage Challenge? Preventative measures.
I come from a “broken” family, so I know how gradually yet swiftly things can go bad. In constrast my husband comes from parents who just celebrated their 40 year anniversary. Combine these two drastically opposite experiences, and oddly it works. I’m cautious of things falling apart while he doesn’t even consider being apart an option. That requires all those token words of wisdom we are told result in a “successful relationship” – trust, communication, compromise, patience, support, etc. But these practices should be happening all day, every day; not once discontent rears its ugly head. So, that’s where the 30 Day Marriage comes in. I’m not trying to fix anything. I’m making sure there’s nothing that needs fixing. Besides, there’s nothing wrong with showing more love to your love.
I came across a few Relationship and Marriage challenges on Pinterest, finally choosing this version created by iMom because it was the most realistic.
My Goals are simple:
- to complete it in 30 days
- to do each task genuinely
- be honest to you with every post; no sugarcoating.
I’m speculating that this challenge won’t be too challenging, but I know the reward will be worthwhile. Mostly, I want the next 30 days to be fun and to remind me why I married this guy.
The most awesome part is that I have wifey friends joining me on this challenge and I’ll be sharing their experience doing the same daily tasks. So, I invite YOU to join us too. The more happy husbands there are out there could only make for a better world because people who feel appreciated pay it forward.
Want to read all 30 Days of the Marriage Challenge? View the Overview page HERE