I feel so off because once again, tasks that seem menial I’m making difficult by overthinking them. My marriage doesn’t need “help”, meaning there are no problems I felt needed fixing when I got into into 30 Day Marriage Challenge. Yet I’m struggling. Mostly in my own head. With my own feelings. I’ve been sick for a week. Maybe the medicines are screwing with my mind.
Today’s focus: kindness
Not that I wasn’t kind to my husband today, but I didn’t feel like I went out of my way to be extra kind. This is the problem I had with the 30 Day Kindness Challenge – the difference between common courtesy vs being out-of-the-box kind.
I came down with something, again! My head was pounding and my body was achey. My husband had to take care of the kids and me, again. I asked him, “How can I help?” as I laid on the couch watching him cook dinner for us. Although this isn’t an extraordinary act of kindness, I take it back to Day 1-3 of the Kindness Challenge – do it from a place of service, honestly and fullness. And from my Kindness Challenge Takeaways, that the most simple things can make the biggest impact.
Tell him, “I’m so glad I married you.”
Why was this so hard? I was trying to find the perfect time to slip it into a conversation. I finally gave it up and just blurted it out, completely out of context, before the clock hit midnite. It totally took away from it’s potential impact, and my husband’s WTH reaction was fitting.
Funnily enough, we were gossiping earlier in the day about someone whose wife recently passed away and how he remarried just a few months later. Both of us stated – we probably wouldn’t remarry if that ever happened. As we held hands watching our kids run and laugh in the park, we concurred that we got married for this very moment – to be our own little family. So, in our own way, non-verbatim, we said “I’m so glad I married you.”
Pray for widsom in being a wife.
Since becoming a mom, the role has defined me. It’s hard sometimes to distinguish the job of wife vs mom. I take a conscious effort make sure him and me are alright, because I believe we are the foundation of our family. If we’re not right as husband and wife, then we can’t be good as dad and mom. That’s the reason I chose the 30 Day Marriage Challenge after-all.
A wife to me is… a partner, not a servant. A supporter, not a yes-man. A motivator, not a deterrent. Basically, all the things I expect of him as a husband, I need to deliver as a wife. I pray to remember this in those moments, like when I was acting like a bitter wife on Days 7, 8 and 9.
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