MARRIAGE: Day 4-6 of 30 – Take Care of Them, They Will Take Care of You

Take Care of Them, They Will Take Care of You

As a wife and parent my days are filled with taking care of my family.  Getting our morning started on-time and efficiently, making sure our days run smoothly and on-schedule, and then tucking our days in at night.  I can easily complain about how much thankless work it all is, any mom can – a working-mom or a stay-at-home-mom.  Most days I feel unappreciated and my efforts overlooked.  Sometimes I resent the people I love most because I feel like they don’t understand the heart and energy I put into their lives.  But then on days like Day 4, 5 and 6 of the 30 Day Marriage challenge there are bright moments that make choosing an unpaid career more rewarding than any paycheck can provide.

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Day 4
Kiss your husband the first time you see him in the morning.

Actually, he kissed me… on the forehead, then tucked me back into bed.  I made a kissy-sound back; that counts, right?

I had a rough night, catching a bout of the notorious stomach virus had me spending more time at the toilet than in bed.  So really I shouldn’t be kissing anyone.  I slept the rest of the day, and he took care of the kids.

I am not a meme!

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Day 5
Tell yourself, “He really loves his family and he is doing his best for us.”

After finally crawling out of my sick-cave, I discovered my house (when not under my control) is complete disarray! I wanted to turn around and run right back under my covers.  So, I had to repeat this sentence to myself several times while I attempted to clean up after my children and man-child.

But let’s look at the big picture… I was sick and my husband had no issues stepping up.  He took care of the kids, he took care of me and, most importantly, he had the kids learn to take care of me too (checking on me, bringing me water, etc.).  He loves us. He didn’t do everything MY way (the right way ūüėú), but he did his best. (And not just today – every day.) So, “bless this mess.”

Day 6
Bake, make or buy his favorite food.

This was a tough one. He’s so picky.  And I can’t cook (read: About Me).

He was only going to be home for breakfast today because he’s going into the office late and staying late. So after dropping off my older one at school, I made a quick run to the market. Operative word: quick.  No one got sleep in our house last night. While I’m still weak and recovering, our younger one caught the virus and had been puking since 3am. I got the ingredients to make his favorite breakfast dish – loaded hash browns.  And since I can finally eat solids, I made a little extra for myself.  

Unexpectedly the husband ended up coming home in time for dinner.  He was hopeful that today’s Marriage Challenge task would cover two meals.  He’s lucky I was in a good mood.

Want to read all 30 Days of the Marriage Challenge?  View the Overview page HERE

MARRIAGE: Day 0 of 30 – Happy Un-Valentine’s Day

Happy¬†Un-Valentine’s Day

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It‚Äôs February. Valentine‚Äôs Day is a week away. The last time my husband and I celebrated was probably the first year we dated, 18 years ago. After our 1-year anniversary we decided not to do any presents for any celebrations (birthdays, holidays, etc.) but to simply get gifts for any reason at any time just because, and to just be together on designated¬†special dates.¬† It‚Äôs worked out great ‚Äď no expectations, no pressure, saved money, headache and heartache.

So why did I choose the 30 Day Marriage Challenge? Preventative measures.

I come from a ‚Äúbroken‚ÄĚ family, so I know how gradually yet swiftly things can go bad. In constrast my husband comes from parents who just celebrated their 40 year anniversary. Combine these two drastically opposite experiences, and oddly it works. ¬†I‚Äôm cautious of things falling apart while he doesn‚Äôt even consider being apart an option. That requires all those token words of wisdom we are told result in a “successful relationship” – trust, communication, compromise, patience, support, etc. ¬†But these practices should be happening all day, every day; not once discontent rears its ugly head. So, that’s where the 30 Day Marriage comes in. I’m not trying to fix anything. I’m making sure there’s nothing that needs fixing. Besides, there’s nothing wrong with showing more love to your love.

30 Day Challenge Accepted MarriageI came across a few Relationship and Marriage challenges on Pinterest, finally choosing this version created by iMom because it was the most realistic.

     My Goals are simple:

  • to complete it in 30 days
  • to do each task genuinely
  • be honest to you with every post; no sugarcoating.

I’m speculating that¬†this challenge won’t be too challenging, but I know the reward will be worthwhile. ¬†Mostly, I want¬†the next 30 days to be fun and to remind me why I married this guy.

The most awesome part is that I have wifey friends joining me on this challenge and I’ll be sharing their experience doing the same daily tasks. ¬†So, I invite YOU¬†to join us too. ¬†The more happy husbands there are out there could only make for a better world because people who feel appreciated pay it forward.

 

Want to read all 30 Days of the Marriage Challenge?  View the Overview page HERE

SLEEP: Day 10-12 of 30 – Confused Sleeping Partner

Confused Sleeping Partner

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For the past 9 days I didn’t tell my husband I was doing the 30 Day Sleep Challenge. ¬†Since we’re both¬†night owls, we’re used to each of¬†being busy either separately or together till the wee hours. ¬†When one of us randomly goes to bed before 1am, we know the endless nights of exhaustion has finally caught up. ¬†But since I’ve been lights out around midnight¬†back-to-back days,¬†I finally had to confess to my husband what I’ve been up to.

Day 10
12:30am – 7:45am (7hours 15minutes), Hit Snooze: 2x

Even though I got a solid 7 hours of sleep, I couldn’t seem to wake up. I should be up and¬†at ’em¬†7:00am in order to get the kids out of the house by 8:30am without acting like a crazy lady. It’s a good thing I had already planned to treat myself to coffee today, because I seemed to need it.

Day 11
12:30am – 7:30am (7hours), Hit Snooze: 1x

I could’ve went to sleep earlier, but with the end of Obama’s tenure and all the talk about Trump, I just had to continue binge watching House of Cards. ¬†Netflix, I love you. But you’re ruining my sleep.

Day 12
11:30am – 7:30am (8hours), Hit Snooze: 2x

I was barely able to keep my eyes open and knocked out surprisingly early; before midnight?! Totally helped that this season of The Affair is a bore. ¬†But, so that my husband wouldn’t worry that something was wrong with me, I finally confessed to¬†him I was doing the sleeping challenge.

It’s not that I was hiding it from my husband, but doing these 30 Day Challenges are a thing I do on my own. ¬†The funny thing is that my husband has either consciously or subconsciously started to go to bed earlier than normal too. ¬†I don’t know if he actually goes to sleep earlier,¬†but he’s by my side, laying in bed with me when I decide that my day is over. ¬†Albeit, he’s laying there in the dark watching youtube or reading tech news on his phone, but now it’s at 12:30 instead of 2:30.

 

Want to read all 30 Days of the Sleep Challenge?  View the Overview page HERE