MARRIAGE: Day 16-18 of 30 – Family First

Family First

Family reunions. They’re usually stressful event for couples.  A topic of contention. A partner’s moment to get creative with excuses to ditch.  On Day 16, 17 and 18 of this 30 Day Marriage Challenge I’m relieved that the tasks came easy, not despite the fact that we were having a huge family reunion but because we were hosting it.

Day 16
Thank him for all he does for your family. 

I had that cliche movie moment – when I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this guy.  I was on the other side of the world, studying abroad, and called my mom to check in.  There she was, having lunch with my aunt and my cousins (just babies at the time) – and there he was, without asking.  I didn’t expect him to spend time with my family when I wasn’t around. That was when I knew: he was the one.

Today, as I was preparing our house for the big reunion of my relatives visiting from across the country and from around the world, without asking – he was cleaning bathrooms, the basement, the kitchen. He wasn’t doing this for me. He was doing this for my family.  Our family.

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Day 17
Laugh with your husband today.

Easy! There was a lot of laughing today. There also happen to be a lot of wine.

A lot of the time I find him embarrassing because my husband is blunt and crass. But it balances my dry sense of humor. Together, we laugh a lot.  Nowadays, mostly about the things are kids say and do.  What made today even more special is being surrounded by aunts, uncles, cousins – from ages 1 to 90 – all laughing together, in our home.

Day 18
Who is a wife you admire? Try to be more like her today. 

I really had to think about this one. There are definitely moms I admire, but I couldn’t think about a single wifely figure. It actually made me sad but also happy. One thing I’ve been working on is not comparing myself.  It puts me in a bad headspace.  So, I concluded that I’m content with what I am as a wife. And therefore, I will be ME today.

“Why compare yourself to others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.”

With all that said, there were people missing from our family reunion. People who have torn our family apart.  It made me even more grateful for the man who is my partner.  His presence in my life actually made my connection with my family stronger. Our extended family is bigger, yet tighter, because of it.  I don’t want to be bold and say that we are the bond to this family, but I’d like to think that there was a reason we were asked to host.  That the reunion was held in our home because everyone feels like its also their home.  It makes me hope that we’re doing something right as a couple.  And maybe I’m the wife to be admired.

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MARRIAGE: Day 4-6 of 30 – Take Care of Them, They Will Take Care of You

Take Care of Them, They Will Take Care of You

As a wife and parent my days are filled with taking care of my family.  Getting our morning started on-time and efficiently, making sure our days run smoothly and on-schedule, and then tucking our days in at night.  I can easily complain about how much thankless work it all is, any mom can – a working-mom or a stay-at-home-mom.  Most days I feel unappreciated and my efforts overlooked.  Sometimes I resent the people I love most because I feel like they don’t understand the heart and energy I put into their lives.  But then on days like Day 4, 5 and 6 of the 30 Day Marriage challenge there are bright moments that make choosing an unpaid career more rewarding than any paycheck can provide.

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Day 4
Kiss your husband the first time you see him in the morning.

Actually, he kissed me… on the forehead, then tucked me back into bed.  I made a kissy-sound back; that counts, right?

I had a rough night, catching a bout of the notorious stomach virus had me spending more time at the toilet than in bed.  So really I shouldn’t be kissing anyone.  I slept the rest of the day, and he took care of the kids.

I am not a meme!

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Day 5
Tell yourself, “He really loves his family and he is doing his best for us.”

After finally crawling out of my sick-cave, I discovered my house (when not under my control) is complete disarray! I wanted to turn around and run right back under my covers.  So, I had to repeat this sentence to myself several times while I attempted to clean up after my children and man-child.

But let’s look at the big picture… I was sick and my husband had no issues stepping up.  He took care of the kids, he took care of me and, most importantly, he had the kids learn to take care of me too (checking on me, bringing me water, etc.).  He loves us. He didn’t do everything MY way (the right way šŸ˜œ), but he did his best. (And not just today – every day.) So, “bless this mess.”

Day 6
Bake, make or buy his favorite food.

This was a tough one. He’s so picky.  And I can’t cook (read: About Me).

He was only going to be home for breakfast today because he’s going into the office late and staying late. So after dropping off my older one at school, I made a quick run to the market. Operative word: quick.  No one got sleep in our house last night. While I’m still weak and recovering, our younger one caught the virus and had been puking since 3am. I got the ingredients to make his favorite breakfast dish – loaded hash browns.  And since I can finally eat solids, I made a little extra for myself.  

Unexpectedly the husband ended up coming home in time for dinner.  He was hopeful that today’s Marriage Challenge task would cover two meals.  He’s lucky I was in a good mood.

Want to read all 30 Days of the Marriage Challenge?  View the Overview page HERE