MARRIAGE: Day 4-6 of 30 – Take Care of Them, They Will Take Care of You

Take Care of Them, They Will Take Care of You

As a wife and parent my days are filled with taking care of my family.  Getting our morning started on-time and efficiently, making sure our days run smoothly and on-schedule, and then tucking our days in at night.  I can easily complain about how much thankless work it all is, any mom can – a working-mom or a stay-at-home-mom.  Most days I feel unappreciated and my efforts overlooked.  Sometimes I resent the people I love most because I feel like they don’t understand the heart and energy I put into their lives.  But then on days like Day 4, 5 and 6 of the 30 Day Marriage challenge there are bright moments that make choosing an unpaid career more rewarding than any paycheck can provide.

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Day 4
Kiss your husband the first time you see him in the morning.

Actually, he kissed me… on the forehead, then tucked me back into bed.  I made a kissy-sound back; that counts, right?

I had a rough night, catching a bout of the notorious stomach virus had me spending more time at the toilet than in bed.  So really I shouldn’t be kissing anyone.  I slept the rest of the day, and he took care of the kids.

I am not a meme!

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Day 5
Tell yourself, “He really loves his family and he is doing his best for us.”

After finally crawling out of my sick-cave, I discovered my house (when not under my control) is complete disarray! I wanted to turn around and run right back under my covers.  So, I had to repeat this sentence to myself several times while I attempted to clean up after my children and man-child.

But let’s look at the big picture… I was sick and my husband had no issues stepping up.  He took care of the kids, he took care of me and, most importantly, he had the kids learn to take care of me too (checking on me, bringing me water, etc.).  He loves us. He didn’t do everything MY way (the right way ūüėú), but he did his best. (And not just today – every day.) So, “bless this mess.”

Day 6
Bake, make or buy his favorite food.

This was a tough one. He’s so picky.  And I can’t cook (read: About Me).

He was only going to be home for breakfast today because he’s going into the office late and staying late. So after dropping off my older one at school, I made a quick run to the market. Operative word: quick.  No one got sleep in our house last night. While I’m still weak and recovering, our younger one caught the virus and had been puking since 3am. I got the ingredients to make his favorite breakfast dish – loaded hash browns.  And since I can finally eat solids, I made a little extra for myself.  

Unexpectedly the husband ended up coming home in time for dinner.  He was hopeful that today’s Marriage Challenge task would cover two meals.  He’s lucky I was in a good mood.

Want to read all 30 Days of the Marriage Challenge?  View the Overview page HERE

SLEEP: Day 25-27 of 30 – Too Excited to Sleep

Too Excited to Sleep

Since I started the 30 Day Sleep Challenge I’ve been shocked at¬†how I’ve¬†been able to fall asleep so quickly by simply putting my tempting phone far away from me. ¬†I notoriously had trouble falling asleep, and my solution before used to be sleeping in the opposite direction (head where my feet are) or in a different place altogether¬†(usually the basement because it’s pitch dark).

On Days 4-6 I spoke about being stressed and using the emotional exhaustion to fall asleep. On Day 25, 26 and 27 these stress factors still exist, but the reason I couldn’t fall asleep is because I was excited. After a year on the journey to get myself back on the career track, I got the phone call I’ve been waiting for. ¬†The interview was scheduled rather quickly, which is probably better because I had less days to ponder what to say and how to say it, what to ask and how not too seem too excited. ¬†This is not a bad reason not to be able to fall asleep.

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Day 25
12:30am – 7:15am (6 hours, 45 minutes), Snooze: 0x

Got into bed at 12:00am but didn’t fall asleep right away.

Day 26
12:30am – 7:15am (6 hours, 45 minutes), Snooze: 0x

Got into bed at 12:00am but didn’t fall asleep right away, again.

Day 27
1:00am – 8:30am (7 hours, 30 minutes), Snooze: 1x

Knocked out and only snoozed because I forgot to turn off my 7:15am alarm

I didn’t completely bomb the interview, by the way. There’s still a long road ahead for me, but it was a proud moment because I felt like the chances I have been taking with my career lead me to this. ¬†It was the first time I mentioned the creation of this blog to an interviewer, taking it back my initial purpose of starting this project and one of my goals – to be able to put this on my resume. ¬†It was a great feeling.

 

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Random Ramble: 2017 Word of the Year – COMMIT

2017: Word of the Year – COMMIT

Recently I joined a Facebook group: Blogging 101, and the admin, Nicole Floss of UniquelyWomen.net, asked “Today is the last day of 2016! Have you chosen a word for 2017?¬†Mine was: COMMIT

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I didn’t start this project to make money, but obviously¬†I¬†would love for it to be successful. But what is my measurement for success? I’m not really sure. At first it was simply to do it. To blog. Literally, the idea (to blog about doing 30Day Challenges) came one night at the end of Aug2016 when I couldn’t go to sleep and the next day I pulled the trigger, because if I didn’t, then I never would. I had no idea what I was doing and I still don’t.

I’ve made goals for each of the 30Day Challenges I chose, and today I realize that I never made goals for this blog. ¬†With the new year, I feel it’s the perfect time. If I’m going to commit my time, energy and heart into 30DayChallengeAccepted, I need milestones to work towards.

So here are 3 measureable goals.

  • Blog site – more consistent views per week and per month. ¬†Since I don’t post daily, I’ll have to figure out the story behind my statistics, but it goes without saying that driving traffic requires me to posts regularly and market through networking.
  • Facebook – Have 200 followers by the end of the year. ¬†Currently I’m at 34
  • Instagram – Have 200 followers by the end of the year. ¬†Currently I’m at 28.

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BLOGGING 30/30: I Actually Did It!

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 30 of 30

I Actually Did It!

My first published post was on 08/09/16. ¬†It took me 33 days to complete this challenge, and I’m not mad at that. ¬†I still can’t believe I actually did it!¬†When I say “it” I mean both 1) a 30 day challenge and 2) blogging.

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I’ve tried, but I’ve never completed a 30 day challenge on anything. ¬†Now I can say that I have! ¬†And I created a blog with no knowledge of how. ¬†Here I am… 30 posts under my belt! I couldn’t have done it without the guidance of Sark eMedia’s program.

Here are 5 reasons I think this worked for me:

1. Daily Emails

Blogging sounds like it would be easy, but there’s an¬†art to it if you actually want to see success. The daily emails by Sarah Arrow helped me navigate the world of blogging. The resources she provides were relevant, easy to follow and executable. Before I started, I was already behind – because I was blogging blindly. ¬†There were a few days I skipped. ¬†But each morning an email popped in my inbox, reminding me of why I decided to start this particular challenge.

2. Goals

On Day4 I laid out my personal goals with this challenge. ¬†Goal One was to make and maintain my own¬†space, on the web and in my life, giving myself a creative outlet and stimulating my brain in a way I felt I was missing. I’ve done it by dedicating time each day to enjoy the process of writing. ¬†Goal Two was to be able to put it on my resume. ¬†Blogging is a key element to inbound marketing and building businesses in today’s world. Through this practice, I better understand¬†Wordpress, SEO writing and optimization.

3. Community Support

I have my personal motivators, but was extremely shy about making my blog public. ¬†Sarah Arrow provides a safe space through her Facebook Group page where 30 Day Blogging Challengers share their daily post, and get feedback from one another. ¬†I was so scared that I didn’t join¬†until day7 with my post “Confession: I’m a Closet Blogger“, but since then I’ve shared all my posts.¬† I’m still taking baby steps out of the closet¬†to the outside world, but have been less reluctant because of the constructive input. There are some amazingly supportive bloggers out there and I’m proud to be part of this community.

4. I enjoy writing

I guess I always have, but I didn’t realize how much. ¬†So I’ve rediscovered my joy of writing. ¬†I’m not the type that likes to hear myself talk, but when I start to type, it flows out of me. ¬†I even created an extra category and posted a bonus blog. ¬†To be able to put structure to my thoughts has been meditative and trying to make my words resonate to a audience besides myself¬†makes me feel¬†productive.

5. Not a business (yet)

My intent going into this was not to make money. ¬†I know blogs have the ability to be monetized, and lucratively. ¬†My objective on the onset has been to create valuable content. ¬†But with Sark eMedia’s lessons, I have the tools available once the opportunity to make this something more presents itself and then I can work even harder to become the boss in my blogging niche.

So, this is the end of my first 30 Day Challenge.  The Blogging Challenge was the perfect challenge to start this side project. I learned so much about myself, which was my purpose for doing challenges.

If you’ve followed me through this journey so far, THANK YOU (you know who you are!). There’s more to come as I continue onto the next one. ¬†So join me for my the next 30 Day Challenge.

 

CHALLENGE: BLOGGING – ‚úĒÔłŹ¬†COMPLETED

 

 

BLOGGING 28/30: The Write Stuff

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 28 of 30

The Write Stuff

For today’s 30 Day Blogging Challenge post, I’ve been torn. ¬†I had a¬†topic I want to write about, but it has nothing to do with my experience with learning to blog. It was about my experience as a mom that I needed to get out of my head and writing it was cathartic¬†– it’s¬†yoga for my brain. ¬†But it didn’t fit with the context of this specific challenge.¬†It wasn’t the right stuff.

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Even though I’m a planner and have an editorial calendar to reference, sometimes there’s not¬†enough content for a certain topic¬†or it’s just not interesting enough for me to write about and therefore would be a struggle for you to read. ¬†If I don’t enjoy writing it, you won’t enjoy reading it. So why waste both of our time?

My goal with each of my posts is to incorporate the blogging perspective, whether it was about¬†dating vs job searching or suggesting my daughter quit piano, and I feel I’ve been successful. ¬†But not today! ¬†So, I decided to¬†create a new category called Random Rambles – for those moments when I have something that has nothing to do with the current 30 Day Challenge.

Today’s Random Ramble topic:¬†Five Types of Mommy Friends¬†–¬†Part of motherhood I didn’t anticipate was having to make friends as an adult. My mom friends fit into 5 groups

Do you like how I turned my obstacle into an opportunity?

And I’m not going to cheat and count this as two posts. ūüėú

 

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BLOGGING 25/30: It’s Never Too Late

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 25 of 30

It’s Never Too Late

here’s part 2 of my story…

My Lesson on Quitting

When I asked my daughter if she wanted to quit piano, her confused reaction surprised me. ¬†I realized up until that point, I had never given her the option. ¬†She’s never asked to stop. ¬†I’ve never told her she could stop. I was relieved when she answered “no”. ¬†Once I realized ¬†the impact of what I suggested, I quickly told her that I wish I never quit when I was a kid.

I thought back to all the activities I attempted. ¬†Things my mom probably encouraged and supported because I either expressed an interest or she saw potential (just like I’m doing with my kids) – piano, violin, singing, volleyball, track&field. ¬†I didn’t excel at any of them. ¬†In all cases, I quit.

In this less-than-1-minute-conversaton I was having with my 6-year-old, I was scared I was setting her up to inherit my quitting gene.

On Day24 of my 30 Day Blogging Challenge, I shared this thought – maybe I haven’t found my passion because in my younger years¬†I was busy being lazy. ¬†This laziness, it seems,¬†eventually caused me to quit most of the opportunities I had laid out in front of me. ¬†Not until college did I finally get my act together and start realizing some¬†of my potential. ¬†But, was¬†it too late? I now know my potential, but I still don’t know my passion.

I know people say “it’s never too late”.¬†And maybe¬†I believe it too, and that’s why I do 30 Day Challenges.

It’s also said that lazy people are geniuses. ¬†I’ll believe that too.

 

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BLOGGING 23/30: The Hump

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 23 of 30

The Hump

It took me almost three days to write my post for Day22 (“Who’s The Boss?”). ¬†I didn’t really know what I was writing about, so my confidence with my content wasn’t there. ¬†It took me a while to “research” the topic, which just caused me to get lost in the (inter)net. And I’m mid-marathon of Narcos on Netflix, which is taking up my evenings (especially because the¬†subtitles don’t allow for multi-tasking). ¬†Then funnily enough, today’s 30 Day Blogging Challenge task was overcoming “blogger’s block”. ¬†Sark eMedia can read my mind!

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Today’s daily Challenge email is exactly what I needed. ¬†Even before when I was doing 30 day challenges without logging my progress, I know the intervals between Days started get to longer and longer around 20. ¬†I never got to 30. ¬† I don’t think I even made it to 25, ever. ¬†I could never get over the hump.¬†Why do I stop?

Stopped seeing progress – specifically with this blog,¬†it’s a catch22 for me. I’m too shy to share, so I don’t have a following. ¬†I don’t have a following, so I don’t see response to my blog creation.

No motivation or get bored – yesterday I felt like i was over my head. My hobby got too hard. Luckily yesterday’s post included motivational blogs, so within itself I was revived.

Lose sight of the finish line – I forget there’s a reward at the end of 30 Days. ¬†Today I went back and read Day4 where I wrote out my goals of doing this blog.

So, today is my hump day. But today is over.

“When you feel like quitting. Think about why you started”

 

Want to read all 30 Days of the Blogging Challenge?  View the Overview page HERE

BLOGGING 22/30: Who The Boss?

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 22 of 30

Who’s The Boss? 

Day21 I wrote about figuring about who my reader is.  Today, Day22, my homework for the 30 Day Blogging Challenge is to figure out who the leaders are in the blogging space I define as my niche.

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Step1 – what is my niche?

From my point of view, I can be narrow or broad. Based on my intent, I can narrowly define my blog as – personal life experiences, specifically doing 30 day challenges.  Based on yesterday’s post, I could be more general and define my space as self-help/motivational.

 

Step2 – who is the leader in my niche?

Unfortunately I can’t rely on my own knowledge since I don’t follow blogs. So I’m going to go to my friend Google.

If I narrow my blog niche category to – 30 day challenge experiential bloggers – I’ve only found a handful and it required digging deep into the SERP pages. When reading through their blogs most didn’t last long and stopped posting years ago. There are, however, endless posts on bloggers’ one-time experiences with a challenge, usually targeted to whatever their blog focuses on, usually fitness.   From what I can see, there’s no main influencer in this space.  Maybe I can be that person. Maybe I can be the #boss.

When I widen the niche net to the broad category to – motivational blogs – the results were a lot more interesting.  Although I was overwhelmed by the lists from the search results, I was inspired by what I came across in the first few minutes.  I’ve actually been seeing over the past 21 days as I learn to blog.

1 TED.com – motivational short videos spreading ideas from though leaders all over the world. If you want to go down a rabbit hole, but not necessary waste your time… take a visit (after you finish reading this post).  And start with this short ~3-minute video with almost 8million views where Matt Cutts speaks about trying something you want to add to your life for 30 days.

2 Gary Vaynerchuk – If you haven’t seen this guy, you need to. Every single “influencer” I do follow has referenced him as a motivator.  He’s the leader in the digital marketing/social media marketing space.  Although his medium is more video, I find his business blog is a wealth of information for a new blogger like myself.  Check it out.

3. MarcAndAngel.com – I discovered this site around 5years ago when I came across a link to their post “30 Lessons to Excel in Life in Your 30s and Beyond”.  It was happy to see them listed in the 2016 Top 100 Personal Development Blogs by StartOfHappiness.com I love the timeless manner of their content.

 

While I don’t have a direct blog influencer in the 30 Day Challenge Experience space, there are some major players I can look up to in the motivational blog category.  The reason for this homework is to follow the influencer’s footprint and figure out what content resonates with their audience… and therefore your audience.  I still have a lot more work to do. But maybe one day I can end up on a “Top” list.

 

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BLOGGING 19/30: Almost Broke My Blogger Promise

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 19 of 30

Almost Broke My Blogger Promise

Today was one of those days, where I’m ready to curl up in my covers and say good bye to another fun Monday (*eyeroll*). ¬†I laughed at myself, as I got ready break the promise of blogging after just writing a post that I wouldn’t be THAT person. ¬†Then I saw my next hour flash before me – still laying in bed, scrolling through nonsense on my phone going down rabbit holes. So I snapped myself up and started reviewing (and commenting on!) the latest posts on the 30 Day Blogging Challenge Facebook group page and got inspired by my peers. ¬†What did me in were some quotes.

The blog and post I came across was by Words-Encouragement.com¬†and the first sentence alone woke me up: “Don‚Äôt despair¬†when doors seem to close that were once open.¬†Be aware¬†instead that it may be a blessing in disguise for¬† new opportunities to just show up out of the blue.”

I’ve always loved inspirational quotes. Two¬†Instagram accounts I follow are¬†ThinkGrowProsper¬†and SelfLoveMantras¬†and every day they perk up my mood. Like horoscopes, you read it and shape it to fit whatever you’re going through. Three things are going on for me at this moment – job searching, attempt at blogging, getting out of my rut. Even though I’m “too blessed to be stressed” (a quote that always makes me smirk), I find these little words of wisdom help me push away¬†my “stinking thinking” (from another 30 Day Blogger post, K’Lee Banks)

So here are some recent posts that are helping me through, and I hope they kickstart something in you too.


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BLOGGING 18/30: I Break Promises

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 18 of 30

I Break Promises

Today’s 30 Day Blogging Challenge tasks is about making a promise, which as a parent I do all the time and break!

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I promise my kids that they’ll get something, that I’ll do something, that we’ll go somewhere… just to get them to cooperate with whatever I need them to do for me at that moment. And if I don’t follow through, they will call me out on it. In my mind it’s not a promise, it’s a compromise and not that serious. But there is it… right in the word: comPROMISE.

They might be kids, but they’re teaching ME things about life, constantly. ¬†What lesson am I teaching them by not doing what I say?! I preach to them about¬†consistency, and about keeping your word, and not lying. Yet, here I am on what I feel is a minuscule scale, not¬†delivering on my end. But regardless of the degree of¬†promise, there are consequences. ¬†What happens when I don’t follow through? Distrust. Loss of credibility. Uncooperativeness. Reciprocal disappointing behavior.

Now, I’m being a bit dramatic in order to¬†prove a point. ¬†Truth is, more often than not, I do what I say I will and my kids know this. But when I forget, I never forget how it feels that I let them down.

As a blogger, there’s a fundamental promise we give our readers… that we will provide informative, entertaining, quality content, consistently. ¬†My promise is to happily compromise my time for yours. I’ve stopped following bloggers because their content didn’t evolve. ¬†Or because their personality became too sponsored. Or simply because they stopped posting. ¬†I would hate to be THAT blogger, because I would never forget how it would feel to fail at yet another 30 Day Challenge. ¬†So, see you for Day#19!

 

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