MARRIAGE: Day 25-27 of 30 – This Lacks Excitement

This Lacks Excitement

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I tried to be more positive with Days 25, 26 and 27 of the 30 Day Marriage Challenge but I can’t help but still feel bored with these tasks.  At least they’re are a bit more interactive.

Day 25
Ask your husband’s opinion on something. 

Sure I ask for my husband’s opinion, but it’s supposed to be the same as mine.
Kidding! (Not kidding.)

I had a simple question this Saturday – “What do you want to do with the kids today?” And I went along with his suggestion, no arguments. It’s actually nice to not be a planner/coordinator once in awhile.

Day 26
Encourage your husband.

I’m leaving in a few days and will be gone for a week. So today I gave him a run-down of the kids’ daily schedule, which is different every single day. And I encouraged him that he will be a great substitute mom. But honestly, good luck!

Day 27
Do something for his health – ie. eat better and exercise together. 

One of our biggest struggles is deciding what to eat and the worst part is that neither of us cooks.  He usually ends up ordering Chinese take-out for himself, while the kids and I survive on whatever I whip up.  Tonight, I told him to pick any baked chicken recipe he wants me to attempt and I cooked for him. That alone is already a healthier option than fried chicken with white rice.

I’m bummed that I’m looking forward to this challenge to be over. I was really excited to do a Marriage challenge and my excitement has waned with each passing day.  On the bright side, great things are going on here at home that we don’t really need these tasks to test our marriage’s strength.

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MARRIAGE: Day 4-6 of 30 – Take Care of Them, They Will Take Care of You

Take Care of Them, They Will Take Care of You

As a wife and parent my days are filled with taking care of my family.  Getting our morning started on-time and efficiently, making sure our days run smoothly and on-schedule, and then tucking our days in at night.  I can easily complain about how much thankless work it all is, any mom can – a working-mom or a stay-at-home-mom.  Most days I feel unappreciated and my efforts overlooked.  Sometimes I resent the people I love most because I feel like they don’t understand the heart and energy I put into their lives.  But then on days like Day 4, 5 and 6 of the 30 Day Marriage challenge there are bright moments that make choosing an unpaid career more rewarding than any paycheck can provide.

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Day 4
Kiss your husband the first time you see him in the morning.

Actually, he kissed me… on the forehead, then tucked me back into bed.  I made a kissy-sound back; that counts, right?

I had a rough night, catching a bout of the notorious stomach virus had me spending more time at the toilet than in bed.  So really I shouldn’t be kissing anyone.  I slept the rest of the day, and he took care of the kids.

I am not a meme!

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Day 5
Tell yourself, “He really loves his family and he is doing his best for us.”

After finally crawling out of my sick-cave, I discovered my house (when not under my control) is complete disarray! I wanted to turn around and run right back under my covers.  So, I had to repeat this sentence to myself several times while I attempted to clean up after my children and man-child.

But let’s look at the big picture… I was sick and my husband had no issues stepping up.  He took care of the kids, he took care of me and, most importantly, he had the kids learn to take care of me too (checking on me, bringing me water, etc.).  He loves us. He didn’t do everything MY way (the right way 😜), but he did his best. (And not just today – every day.) So, “bless this mess.”

Day 6
Bake, make or buy his favorite food.

This was a tough one. He’s so picky.  And I can’t cook (read: About Me).

He was only going to be home for breakfast today because he’s going into the office late and staying late. So after dropping off my older one at school, I made a quick run to the market. Operative word: quick.  No one got sleep in our house last night. While I’m still weak and recovering, our younger one caught the virus and had been puking since 3am. I got the ingredients to make his favorite breakfast dish – loaded hash browns.  And since I can finally eat solids, I made a little extra for myself.  

Unexpectedly the husband ended up coming home in time for dinner.  He was hopeful that today’s Marriage Challenge task would cover two meals.  He’s lucky I was in a good mood.

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SLEEP: Day 22-24 of 30 – Stopped Using the Snooze Button

Stopped Using the Snooze Button

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In an attempt to escalate this 30 Day Sleep Challenge, I decided on Day 22, 23 and 24 I will no longer hit the snooze button.  The attempts to extend my sleep to either catch more zzz’s or to recapture my dreams only makes me more tired, and ultimately more stressed since I have to manage getting two kids out the door – teeth brushed, fed, dressed and with matching shoes on.

Day 22
12:15am-7:15am (7 hours), Hit Snooze: 0x!

Had a slightly difficult time falling asleep. Although the kids didn’t give me a reason to be worrisome, I was half awake most of the night.  Then funnily enough, I had the most intense dream – like my brain was making up for letting me down this past few days – and wanted to hit snooze, but instead I dragged myself up and started my day.  There was a lot of yawning, but oddly enough also a surge of energy. I even jumped on the dreaded treadmill after dropping the kids off at school.

Day 23
11:45pm-7:15am (7hours, 30minutes), Hit Snooze: 0x!

In the middle of the night, both kids came down claiming nightmares (at different times).  Too tired and not in the mood to teach a lesson in the wee hours, I let them take over the bed and went to sleep in my daughter’s bed. (Secret: I actually prefer sleeping solo). Sure, I didn’t hit snooze, but I laid in bed for 20minutes struggling to get up. Then again, a mini surge of energy mid-morning, I did a yoga session.

Day 24
12:00am-7:15am (7hours, 15minutes), Hit Snooze: 0x!

My husband knows I have a difficult time falling back to sleep, so to prevent the kids from sneaking into our bed (which he actually loves), after they fell asleep he moved the younger one into the older one’s bed.  It worked!

I didn’t actually discover the function of the snooze button until college.  What a horrible time to discover it and test its limits.  I’ve never been a morning person, and having safety net of a secondary alarm only encouraged my poor habits.  These past three days weren’t as hard as I thought.  But the timing of this mini-test if funny because just this week an article came out saying that hitting the snooze button actually means you’re a smart person. Ha!

 

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SLEEP: Day 16-18 of 30 – Let Mommy Sleep

Let Mommy Sleep

I have to admit, so far getting 7 hours of sleep at night is a much easier challenge than I thought it would be.  I thought that the act of falling asleep, which has always been difficult for me, was going to be my biggest hurdle.  Who knew that simply putting my phone far from arm’s reach was the solution.  The only thing I haven’t been able to resolve through this 30 Day Sleep Challenge is getting my kids to sleep in their beds through the night, every night.  How many of you have a voice that screams in your head, “LET MOMMY SLEEP!”? How many of you actually scream it aloud?

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Day 16
12:15-7:30 (7 hours), Hit Snooze: 2x

Slept with my daughter in her room last night because of the storm; the winds and rain were so loud I don’t blame her for being scared. Thought it would be better than having her wake me up in the middle of the night.  Didn’t work out as planned. Her kicking woke me up through the night. I think she punched me once too.

Day 17
12:15-7:15 (7 hours), Hit Snooze: 1x

It’s like my kids conspire against me – how do both of them have nightmares the same night? First my little one came down in the middle of the night.  His little 3-foot body managed to take over my side of the bed. As soon as I woke up to adjust him, my older one walked in.  So I gave up and let her take up whatever remaining space there was in our bed and I left to go sleep in her bed.

Day 18
11:45-7:15 (7 hours, 30 minutes), Hit Snooze: 1x

Today was a rare night. I don’t even remember falling asleep, and slept through the entire night, no interruptions. I was ready to complain about my husbands snoring as tonight’s interruption, instead he complained about mine. Sorry, not sorry.

How did this miracle happen you wonder? My mom came to stay the night, and the kids both slept with her in the guest room. Grandmas are the best.

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SLEEP: Day 13-15 of 30 – I Forgot How To Do Math

I Forgot How To Do Math

On Day 13, 14 and 15 either my internal clock is broken or I’ve forgotten how to do math because I kept having trouble calculating the amount of sleep I was getting. Sleep is supposed to help your brain, not make you stupid.  Or maybe it’s my kid’s common core math homework successfully screwing with how I add and subtract. All I have are 10-frames and counters in my head and none of it makes sense.

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Day 13
1:00am – 8:30am (7hours 30min), Hit Snooze: 0x

When I woke up I was upset I couldn’t fall back to sleep to catch some more zzz’s. I wanted at least 7hours. When I complained to my husband about us falling asleep at 2am, he said we actually knocked right before 1am, in the middle of the movie.

Day 14
1:30am – 9:30 am (8hours), Hit Snooze: 0x

For some reason I kept calculating wrong and thought I only got 6 hours of sleep.  I woke up so tired and was sure I didn’t get 7 hours rest, until I remembered that I was on my feet for almost 5 hours yesterday at Women’s March.

Day 15
12:30 – 7:45 (7hours 15minutes), Hit Snooze: 3x

Total sleep was probably more like 6 hours and 45 minutes since I hit snooze so many times.  I don’t know anymore. I’m too tired to think.

 

Now that I’m half-way through the 30 Day Sleep Challenge, this is the time I like to step back and take stock of how I’m doing. Here are some observations I’ve made on Day 1 – 15:

  • I’m averaging more sleep a night, but haven’t felt more energetic. 🐌
  • On the contrary, my body and brain seem to be more tired. 😴 Sure, I have other things going on that I’m not detailing, but life is always going on. 🎭
  • Surprisingly adjusted to an earlier bedtime very easily. 🛌
  • Eliminating sleep distractions has been easier than I thought.  Biggest help is put my phone far away from me at night. 👋🏼📱
  • I used to be a morning shower person, until I become a stay-at-home-mom.  Now I’m lucky if I shower at least 3x week. 🙊 For the first few days I would take a shower every morning and it helped jolt me up in the morning.  🚿
  • The snooze button is a blessing and a curse. ⏰🔨
  • All I do at night is watch a show or movie. 📺 What was I doing before that was so important that I needed to stay up till 2am?

 

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SLEEP: Day 10-12 of 30 – Confused Sleeping Partner

Confused Sleeping Partner

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For the past 9 days I didn’t tell my husband I was doing the 30 Day Sleep Challenge.  Since we’re both night owls, we’re used to each of being busy either separately or together till the wee hours.  When one of us randomly goes to bed before 1am, we know the endless nights of exhaustion has finally caught up.  But since I’ve been lights out around midnight back-to-back days, I finally had to confess to my husband what I’ve been up to.

Day 10
12:30am – 7:45am (7hours 15minutes), Hit Snooze: 2x

Even though I got a solid 7 hours of sleep, I couldn’t seem to wake up. I should be up and at ’em 7:00am in order to get the kids out of the house by 8:30am without acting like a crazy lady. It’s a good thing I had already planned to treat myself to coffee today, because I seemed to need it.

Day 11
12:30am – 7:30am (7hours), Hit Snooze: 1x

I could’ve went to sleep earlier, but with the end of Obama’s tenure and all the talk about Trump, I just had to continue binge watching House of Cards.  Netflix, I love you. But you’re ruining my sleep.

Day 12
11:30am – 7:30am (8hours), Hit Snooze: 2x

I was barely able to keep my eyes open and knocked out surprisingly early; before midnight?! Totally helped that this season of The Affair is a bore.  But, so that my husband wouldn’t worry that something was wrong with me, I finally confessed to him I was doing the sleeping challenge.

It’s not that I was hiding it from my husband, but doing these 30 Day Challenges are a thing I do on my own.  The funny thing is that my husband has either consciously or subconsciously started to go to bed earlier than normal too.  I don’t know if he actually goes to sleep earlier, but he’s by my side, laying in bed with me when I decide that my day is over.  Albeit, he’s laying there in the dark watching youtube or reading tech news on his phone, but now it’s at 12:30 instead of 2:30.

 

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SLEEP: Day 1-3 of 30 – How Am I Still So Sleepy?!

How Am I Still So Sleepy?!

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I’ve gotten more sleep the past three days than I normally do.  On Days 1, 2, and 3 of the 30 Day Sleep Challenge I averaged 6-1/2hours a night (my  norm is closer to 5-6hours a night). Yet I feel even more tired during the day now than I did before.  What is going on?

Day1
12:30am-7:00am (6-1/2hours), Hit Snooze: 1x

Hubby got a work call at 3:30am that woke me up. Have a mentioned that I’m a very light sleeper.

Day 2
12:30am-7:00am (6-1/2hours), Hit Snooze: 0x

Slept right through the night, yet when I woke up I laid there for 20minutes before finally getting out of bed.  One of my future challenges will have to be the Morning Challenge.

Day 3
12:15am-4:30am, 5:00am-7:30am (6-1/2hours), Hit Snooze: 3x

In the middle of the night my son woke me up when he crawled into our bed.  Then I couldn’t fall back to sleep because my husband started snoring.  So I went to sleep in the guest room, stopping by my daughter’s room to give her a kiss, but she wasn’t in bed and I got scared.  Thought maybe my son had come to our room because she crawled into his bed, but she wasn’t in his bed either.  So I ran to wake my husband, and there she was… tucked by his side, hidden from view.  Unlike her little brother, she knows how to sneak into our bed without waking me.

I thought it would be a struggle to go to sleep earlier than 1:00am, but instead I’m finding struggling to stay awake by midnight.  I was expecting with more sleep I would have more energy, but instead it’s like my body is begging for even more sleep.  Apparently I’m supposed to be hibernating. So off I go… good night.

 

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