MARRIAGE: Day 1-3 of 30 – Already Awesome Wives

Already Awesome Wives

Unlike the other 30 Day Challenges I’ve done, I gave my husband a heads up about this one. Usually I don’t involve/include/inform him of my challenges, because they’re mine to do.  But since this involves him and I want to fulfill the tasks to the max, I let him know that the next 30 Days is about him. He said, “finally!” So, let’s go…

Day 1
Ask “What can I help with you today?”

I had to ask him twice! He finally responded, “Oh. I thought you were being a wiseass.”  Welcome to our relationship.

I was ready for him to take advantage of me, asking me for something in the bedroom – if you get my drift. But instead he gave me the most menial task – “Bring the Home Depot gift card to your mom’s” (where we were going to be having dinner later).

Day 2
Go the whole day without correcting your husband

IMPOSSIBLE! Even he laughed when I told him what today’s task was.  We were both stuck at home today, and the only way for me to fulfill this task was to not talk (which is also impossible).

Many times I opened my mouth ready to make a remark and quickly stop myself.  But my eyes speak louder than my mouth, so it was really pointless.  I tried, I really did! I still consider it the task fulfilled, because we didn’t bicker at all.

Day 3
Hug your husband three times today.

EASY! We read a long time ago, probably a random Facebook post or something, that you should have skin-to-skin contact every day for at least 10 seconds. Hugging comes naturally to us, and this “study” justified doing it.

The best part about today was – usually when we embrace our kids pretend to act like it makes them uncomfortable.  But this morning, when they saw me going in for a hug, they jumped off their seats and joined us! Family hug!!! #blessed

So, I thought that by telling my husband I was doing this challenge and letting him know the daily tasks, he would milk it.  But he’s not, and I’m actually a bit bummed.  Coincidentally, my mommy friends are having the same experience with their husbands.  I think it’s because we’re already such awesome wives. 😝

30 Day Challenge Accepted Marriage

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MARRIAGE: Day 0 of 30 – Happy Un-Valentine’s Day

Happy Un-Valentine’s Day

30 Day Challenge Accepted Marriage

It’s February. Valentine’s Day is a week away. The last time my husband and I celebrated was probably the first year we dated, 18 years ago. After our 1-year anniversary we decided not to do any presents for any celebrations (birthdays, holidays, etc.) but to simply get gifts for any reason at any time just because, and to just be together on designated special dates.  It’s worked out great – no expectations, no pressure, saved money, headache and heartache.

So why did I choose the 30 Day Marriage Challenge? Preventative measures.

I come from a “broken” family, so I know how gradually yet swiftly things can go bad. In constrast my husband comes from parents who just celebrated their 40 year anniversary. Combine these two drastically opposite experiences, and oddly it works.  I’m cautious of things falling apart while he doesn’t even consider being apart an option. That requires all those token words of wisdom we are told result in a “successful relationship” – trust, communication, compromise, patience, support, etc.  But these practices should be happening all day, every day; not once discontent rears its ugly head. So, that’s where the 30 Day Marriage comes in. I’m not trying to fix anything. I’m making sure there’s nothing that needs fixing. Besides, there’s nothing wrong with showing more love to your love.

30 Day Challenge Accepted MarriageI came across a few Relationship and Marriage challenges on Pinterest, finally choosing this version created by iMom because it was the most realistic.

     My Goals are simple:

  • to complete it in 30 days
  • to do each task genuinely
  • be honest to you with every post; no sugarcoating.

I’m speculating that this challenge won’t be too challenging, but I know the reward will be worthwhile.  Mostly, I want the next 30 days to be fun and to remind me why I married this guy.

The most awesome part is that I have wifey friends joining me on this challenge and I’ll be sharing their experience doing the same daily tasks.  So, I invite YOU to join us too.  The more happy husbands there are out there could only make for a better world because people who feel appreciated pay it forward.

 

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SLEEP: Day 22-24 of 30 – Stopped Using the Snooze Button

Stopped Using the Snooze Button

30 Day Challenge Accepted Sleep

In an attempt to escalate this 30 Day Sleep Challenge, I decided on Day 22, 23 and 24 I will no longer hit the snooze button.  The attempts to extend my sleep to either catch more zzz’s or to recapture my dreams only makes me more tired, and ultimately more stressed since I have to manage getting two kids out the door – teeth brushed, fed, dressed and with matching shoes on.

Day 22
12:15am-7:15am (7 hours), Hit Snooze: 0x!

Had a slightly difficult time falling asleep. Although the kids didn’t give me a reason to be worrisome, I was half awake most of the night.  Then funnily enough, I had the most intense dream – like my brain was making up for letting me down this past few days – and wanted to hit snooze, but instead I dragged myself up and started my day.  There was a lot of yawning, but oddly enough also a surge of energy. I even jumped on the dreaded treadmill after dropping the kids off at school.

Day 23
11:45pm-7:15am (7hours, 30minutes), Hit Snooze: 0x!

In the middle of the night, both kids came down claiming nightmares (at different times).  Too tired and not in the mood to teach a lesson in the wee hours, I let them take over the bed and went to sleep in my daughter’s bed. (Secret: I actually prefer sleeping solo). Sure, I didn’t hit snooze, but I laid in bed for 20minutes struggling to get up. Then again, a mini surge of energy mid-morning, I did a yoga session.

Day 24
12:00am-7:15am (7hours, 15minutes), Hit Snooze: 0x!

My husband knows I have a difficult time falling back to sleep, so to prevent the kids from sneaking into our bed (which he actually loves), after they fell asleep he moved the younger one into the older one’s bed.  It worked!

I didn’t actually discover the function of the snooze button until college.  What a horrible time to discover it and test its limits.  I’ve never been a morning person, and having safety net of a secondary alarm only encouraged my poor habits.  These past three days weren’t as hard as I thought.  But the timing of this mini-test if funny because just this week an article came out saying that hitting the snooze button actually means you’re a smart person. Ha!

 

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SLEEP: Day 4-6 of 30 – Sleeping Stress Away

Sleeping Stress Away

It’s been a tough week. Usually I’m good at keeping a positive attitude, but as little things kept piling up I felt like I was getting hit left-and-right.  I face-planted at the train station.  I dropped and shattered my iphone.  My son caught the stomach flu.  My daughter was pushed during basketball and scraped the skin right off her knee.  This is all on top of the biggest problem that I can’t even mention here.

30 Day Challenge Accepted Sleep

Stress and sleep have never went hand-in-hand for me.  But on Day 4, 5 and 6 of the 30 Day Sleeping Challenge I was more conscious of the need to escape reality, not using vices like wine or comfort food, but through the best option – sleep.

Day 4
12:15am – 7:00am (6hours 45minutes), Hit Snooze: 1x

This week I’ve been dealing with some annoying information that’s causing me a lot of stress.  Usually when I have a lot on my mind, I have trouble sleeping. I will lay in bed for hours, either sulking or brainstorming solutions, usually a little bit of both.  Tonight I decided to prevent a sleepless night by succumbing to my emotionally exhausted brain and shutting down early.

Day 5
12:00am – 7:30am (7hours 30minutes), Hit Snooze: 0x

My little guy came home sick from school.  He had a febrile seizure once when he was an infant and since then I take his fevers seriously, even a mild one.  So tonight I wanted him to sleep in bed with me so I could keep an eye on him.

Day 6
1:45am – 7:15am, 7:30am-9:15am, 9:30-10:30 (7hours 45minutes), Hit Snooze: 0x

In an attempt to relax and spend time together not talking about adult stuff, my husband and I decided to watch a light-hearted movie to bed.  Thank you Zack Galifianakis for giving me a few laughs.  I really needed them.  At 7:15am my little guy snuck into my bed, and together we snoozed the rest of the morning away.  When I woke up at 9:30am, everyone was still sleeping so I snuck away to the basement and watched an episode of House of Cards with my eyes closed (aka I listened to Season1 Episode11 – poor Peter. I was really rooting for him).

Since starting the Instagram account for the 30DayChallengeAccepted blog, I’ve been surfing quotes on whatever topic is on my mind.  Whether that’s ‘challenges’, ‘sleep’ or ‘stress’, reading these inspiring words has helped me keep my problems in prospective.  Luckily most of the issues I listed are passing, and the big one (hopefully) financially burdening only short-term. I can’t control any of it.  But the one thing I can try to control is my response to it.  Sleep being one of those important things.

 

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SLEEP: Day 1-3 of 30 – How Am I Still So Sleepy?!

How Am I Still So Sleepy?!

30 Day Challenge Accepted Sleep

I’ve gotten more sleep the past three days than I normally do.  On Days 1, 2, and 3 of the 30 Day Sleep Challenge I averaged 6-1/2hours a night (my  norm is closer to 5-6hours a night). Yet I feel even more tired during the day now than I did before.  What is going on?

Day1
12:30am-7:00am (6-1/2hours), Hit Snooze: 1x

Hubby got a work call at 3:30am that woke me up. Have a mentioned that I’m a very light sleeper.

Day 2
12:30am-7:00am (6-1/2hours), Hit Snooze: 0x

Slept right through the night, yet when I woke up I laid there for 20minutes before finally getting out of bed.  One of my future challenges will have to be the Morning Challenge.

Day 3
12:15am-4:30am, 5:00am-7:30am (6-1/2hours), Hit Snooze: 3x

In the middle of the night my son woke me up when he crawled into our bed.  Then I couldn’t fall back to sleep because my husband started snoring.  So I went to sleep in the guest room, stopping by my daughter’s room to give her a kiss, but she wasn’t in bed and I got scared.  Thought maybe my son had come to our room because she crawled into his bed, but she wasn’t in his bed either.  So I ran to wake my husband, and there she was… tucked by his side, hidden from view.  Unlike her little brother, she knows how to sneak into our bed without waking me.

I thought it would be a struggle to go to sleep earlier than 1:00am, but instead I’m finding struggling to stay awake by midnight.  I was expecting with more sleep I would have more energy, but instead it’s like my body is begging for even more sleep.  Apparently I’m supposed to be hibernating. So off I go… good night.

 

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