Five Types of Mommy Friends
I’ve been a mom for about 6 years now, and the part of motherhood I didn’t anticipate was having to make friends as an adult in the name of your child. It hasn’t been all fun, sometimes not too different from the dramatics that tv shows and movies portray. I’ve found I can categorize my mom friends into 5 groups.
1. The OG Mom Friend
These are the friends that were your friends before you were pregnant and that got pregnant around the same time you did. Your kids are around the same age. Your kids get along. You share hilarious stories and pictures. You can talk about the taboo topics with no restraint. Being moms has made your friendship stronger.
2. The New Mom Friend
These are the friends you made as a result of having children. The mom you met at a mommy-and-me class, a playdate, or school. Your kids get along. You parent similarly. You’re both from the neighborhood. You share information about local events and even sign up for things and go together. She’s the mom you can count on to help with the kids with emergency pick-up, and vice versa. And if you’re lucky, you don’t even mind hanging out with her without the kids.
3. THAT-Mom Friend
More of an acquaintance. Usually once your kid is in a full-time program that has a affiliate parent organization of which they’re highly involved. Maybe a bit too involved. You see them at playdates, birthday parties, local events. You’re friendly. Your kids know of each other, but don’t ask to have playdates. A playdate would probably end up being a solicitation session anyways.
4. I-don’t-want-to-be-your-Friend Friend
a. The aggressive type that has a kid the same age, or just a bit younger. She constantly insists on playdates, and always comments about how great your kids are when they’re together. Every conversation is an interrogation about what you’ve done with your child, are doing with your child, and are planning to do. You eventually see them at the same extracurricular activities. Coincidence or not? You’re not sure. You shamefully find yourself making efforts to avoid them and their child.
b. the kid is aggressive and you don’t want your kid around that behavior because your parenting style is very different from their mom’s.
5. The Non-Mom Friend
This is the friend who does not yet have a child of their own, but is incredible with your kids. She makes time to play with your kids. Is hands-on, and your kids love her. Will even offer to watch the munchkins so you can have some time to yourself. She’s also the friend who will make sure you have mommy-free time. She plans the girl’s night you need and is the drinking buddy therapist you didn’t realize you needed. She will listen to your endless ramblings about being a mom, with no judgement. And in the end, will tell you what a great mom she thinks you are.
Do you have these type of mommy friends? Or what would you add to the list?
Which mommy friend are you?