Being Content Equals No Content

It’s been so long since I posted or even logged into this blog. I thought back to why I started this website a year ago. I was in a totally different place. An admittedly unhappy place. Doing 30 Day Challenges was to help me get out of my rut.

Good news: it worked.
Bad news: I’m a horrible blogger.

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A year ago, I wrote about how I needed to discover something – anything – about myself. At 35 years old, I hadn’t figured out what made me special.  Have I figured it out? Not really, but I’m very happy with where I am.  I’m content. But as a result, I have no content to blog because I’ve been busy enjoying life and have no motivation to do a 30 Day Challenge.

A quick update is that I landed my dream job. I have the balance of office-life and home-life that I knew existed for the type of working mom I want to be. I’m happy.

But, there’s always room for self-discovery and improvement so I hope to find a 30 Day Challenge to motivate to me continue blogging. Recommendations?

Random Ramble: 2017 Word of the Year – COMMIT

2017: Word of the Year – COMMIT

Recently I joined a Facebook group: Blogging 101, and the admin, Nicole Floss of UniquelyWomen.net, asked “Today is the last day of 2016! Have you chosen a word for 2017? Mine was: COMMIT

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I didn’t start this project to make money, but obviously I would love for it to be successful. But what is my measurement for success? I’m not really sure. At first it was simply to do it. To blog. Literally, the idea (to blog about doing 30Day Challenges) came one night at the end of Aug2016 when I couldn’t go to sleep and the next day I pulled the trigger, because if I didn’t, then I never would. I had no idea what I was doing and I still don’t.

I’ve made goals for each of the 30Day Challenges I chose, and today I realize that I never made goals for this blog.  With the new year, I feel it’s the perfect time. If I’m going to commit my time, energy and heart into 30DayChallengeAccepted, I need milestones to work towards.

So here are 3 measureable goals.

  • Blog site – more consistent views per week and per month.  Since I don’t post daily, I’ll have to figure out the story behind my statistics, but it goes without saying that driving traffic requires me to posts regularly and market through networking.
  • Facebook – Have 200 followers by the end of the year.  Currently I’m at 34
  • Instagram – Have 200 followers by the end of the year.  Currently I’m at 28.

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Random Rambles: 10Years Experience with an MBA Seeking Entry-Level Position

10Years Experience with an MBA Seeking Entry-Level Position

Deciding to leave the workforce after working over a decade in the media industry and being quite comfortable in both my career and finances was the hardest and easiest decision I made.  Almost four years later, I resent the outcome, but not my decision. 

My family was excited about my new life as a stay-at-home mom. We just gave birth to our son, and our daughter was entering preschool.  I was now able to fully manage the construction of our new home.  And we figured once all was settled, going back to work wouldn’t be an issue.  I had over 10-years agency experience, good relationships with my peers, clients and colleagues, and a bachelor and masters degress in marketing. So, devoting 5 years to my family seemed small in the big picture.

After 3 years, I was ready to go back. The house was completed in just over a year, we moved in and now call it our home.  Our older one started school full-time and our younger was entering preschool.  It took me a few weeks to update my resume (which I hadn’t touched since post-college!) and get myself set up on several career sites. Once I felt what I put together was presentable, I submitted my cover letter and resume to numerous postings for which I technically fit their qualifications.  But it felt like I was sending applications to a black hole.

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When I finally got some call-backs, the first comment was usually “So, I see you’re not currently employed?”.  I share my story about deciding to be a temporary stay-at-home-mom, which everyone finds admirable, but I sense the disappointment in their tone.  These calls go no where. When I ask for feedback, the suggestion is … to “look at more entry-level positions instead“.

After months of my ego and my confidence getting shot, I started looking into how to take this challenge and turn it into an opportunity.  I created my own unpaid adult-internship with a local ad agency.  So there I was, in my 30’s, interning because, apparently, I was un-hireable.  The decision to raise my kids killed my career.  Imagine if I stuck to the full 5 years!

Was it worth it? Absolutely.  I was there for every moment for both of my kids. As a mom, you always get the advice about how kids grow up so fast and to cherish the moments.  I did exactly that.  I walked the walk.

Was it easy? Absolutely NOT.  As someone who is career-driven, being a stay-at-home-mom took a toll on my psyche. But I’ll leave that for another post.

Where am I now? With the internship, it put a ‘recent’ line item on my resume and the responses finally started coming in. I still had to share my story to explain how I went from a mid-level manager to an intern, but now employers saw someone who was ambitious.  I got hired.

Employers are missing out on a strong breed of women
by passing over moms looking to return to the workforce.  

 

Here’s the thing – there’s no person more ambitious than a mom, especially a mom who is looking to take care of her family but also wants to take care of herself.   Employers are missing out on a strong breed of women by passing over moms looking to return to the workforce.  Our priorities are balanced.  Our goals our greater.  Our commitment is stronger.  We are not entry-level.

Random Ramble: Five Types of Mommy Friends

RANDOM RAMBLE:

Five Types of Mommy Friends

30 Day Challenge Random Rambles Five Types of Mom Friends

I’ve been a mom for about 6 years now, and the part of motherhood I didn’t anticipate was having to make friends as an adult in the name of your child.  It hasn’t been all fun, sometimes not too different from the dramatics that tv shows and movies portray. I’ve found I can categorize my mom friends into 5 groups.

1. The OG Mom Friend

These are the friends that were your friends before you were pregnant and that got pregnant around the same time you did. Your kids are around the same age.  Your kids get along. You share hilarious stories and pictures.  You can talk about the taboo topics with no restraint.  Being moms has made your friendship stronger.

 2. The New Mom Friend

These are the friends you made as a result of having children.  The mom you met at a mommy-and-me class, a playdate, or school.  Your kids get along. You parent similarly. You’re both from the neighborhood.  You share information about local events and even sign up for things and go together. She’s the mom you can count on to help with the kids with emergency pick-up, and vice versa. And if you’re lucky, you don’t even mind hanging out with her without the kids.

 3. THAT-Mom Friend

More of an acquaintance.  Usually once your kid is in a full-time program that has a affiliate parent organization of which they’re highly involved.  Maybe a bit too involved.  You see them at playdates, birthday parties, local events.  You’re friendly. Your kids know of each other, but don’t ask to have playdates. A playdate would probably end up being a solicitation session anyways.

 4. I-don’t-want-to-be-your-Friend Friend

a. The aggressive type that has a kid the same age, or just a bit younger.  She constantly insists on playdates, and always comments about how great your kids are when they’re together.  Every conversation is an interrogation about what you’ve done with your child, are doing with your child, and are planning to do.  You eventually see them at the same extracurricular activities. Coincidence or not? You’re not sure. You shamefully find yourself making efforts to avoid them and their child.

b. the kid is aggressive and you don’t want your kid around that behavior because your parenting style is very different from their mom’s.

5. The Non-Mom Friend

This is the friend who does not yet have a child of their own, but is incredible with your kids. She makes time to play with your kids. Is hands-on, and your kids love her. Will even offer to watch the munchkins so you can have some time to yourself.  She’s also the friend who will make sure you have mommy-free time. She plans the girl’s night you need and is the drinking buddy therapist you didn’t realize you needed.  She will listen to your endless ramblings about being a mom, with no judgement. And in the end, will tell you what a great mom she thinks you are.

Do you have these type of mommy friends? Or what would you add to the list?

Which mommy friend are you?

 

BLOGGING 20/30: I’ve Never Really Dated

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 20 of 30

I’ve Never Really Dated

So I missed putting up a post yesterday, but for good reason.  After a full day at the office and a late dinner, I had to complete a job interview task which took me time to prepare and send. I was honestly bummed that I didn’t have enough hours in the day to also fit in a 30 Day Blogging Challenge post, but alas, I needed sleep to deal with my little boy who has decided that he doesn’t need sleep. As I go through another interview process, I often compare it to dating.  Which is ironic since I never really dated.

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As I mentioned in my 30 Random Facts post, I’ve been with my guy for almost two decades. So my brief experience with real-life grown-up dating was right before college with the guy who is now my husband, and we were barely grown ups.

I do, however, have plenty of girlfriends and have lived the dating life vicariously through them.  The searching. The meeting. The getting-to-know you.  The lust.  The (maybe) love.  The possibilities. The ambivalence. The heartbreak.  The end.  The letting go.  The looking back and laughing about it. Since trying to get back into the workplace after taking time off to be a stay-at-home mom, I feel dating and job searching are similar quests.

During my time “alone” (without a job), I worked on myself.  I took classes, exercised (my brain) and worked at improving myself. I searched and searched (job sites).  I created a (LinkedIn) profile of myself that made me look both intelligent and attractive (as a potential employee). I’ve had phone and face-to-face “dates” (interviews).  I  decided to commit to one (job) because it seemed perfect.  I “dated” it for two months and realized that we weren’t a good fit and that I didn’t see myself in it for the long run.  So, I had to break up with it.  It was a very hard decision and I felt very embarrassed,  but we had a talk (and I gave my letter of resignation). We’re taking it slow though with the good-bye and I still go back a few days a week (they asked me to freelance).  But… I’m officially on the hunt again.

Sometimes I feel like blogging is my mistress.

 

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