BLOGGING 7/30: Confession: I’m a Closet Blogger

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 7 of 30

Confession: I’m a Closet Blogger

My personal Facebook setting is private. My personal Instagram is private. I’m generally unsocial on social media compared to most. I don’t even do reviews on company websites if they’re going to use my name because I have a unique first name. Yet, part of the 30 Day Blogging Challenge requires me to be ‘public’ in order for it to be successful.

30 Day Blogging Challenge 07

What am I hiding from?


I’ve always been protective of my personal information. Now that I have kids, I feel like I have more at stake to protect. I don’t need strangers knowing details about my life or putting my kids at risk. I want to keep my private life private.  But if someone wants to find out something, there’s no stopping them.


I’ve never needed to have the limelight; if anything, it makes me uncomfortable. I don’t over-share about how wonderful I think my kids are or boast about my marriage or friendships (imo). And I don’t do selfies. Often times I feel myself holding back from posting a particular photo or status because I think I’ll be the only person that finds it entertaining. That’s sort of how I feel about this blog.  But I won’t know if i don’t put myself out there. 


This is admittedly my biggest issue. Although I’ve grown a thicker skin over the years, I still care what people think. As this blog is just beginning, I don’t know what will become of it. I want to wait until I’m 3 challenges deep before I start telling my friends and family, “Guess what! I started a blog. Check it out.”  It’s like waiting until you’re in the second trimester before you start sharing the news that you’re expecting. But if I’m already prepared to fail, then I’m not prepared to succeed. 


Am I paranoid? Are there any bloggers out there that are incognito – that keep their personal persona completely separate from their blog? Or it is a given – if you want to blog, you have to expose who you are and be ready to take a headshot?


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Written By 30daysV

20 Comments on “BLOGGING 7/30: Confession: I’m a Closet Blogger

  1. Julie Corbett Reply

    August 16, 2016 at 2:28

    I really like what you have shared. Despite your longing for anonymity, you just shared a lot about yourself and I enjoyed reading about it. It gives me a great sense of the type of person you are. This was something I dealt with when I first set up social media accounts. However, I realize now that my true desire is to help others by sharing my story. I know that others are going to be able to relate and be more willing to read what I have shared when they realize I have been in their shoes. I think your blogging is great! I am very new to blogging as well. We are in this together!

    • 30daysV Reply

      August 16, 2016 at 10:59

      Julie – Thank you, again 🙂 I guess everyone has to start somewhere. We’re doing this!

  2. Melinda Reply

    August 16, 2016 at 6:08

    I used to be like that too but then things just changed for me earlier this year and I started to share more. I think you can still be a blogger and keep your private life private if that’s what you want. Just do what makes you comfortable. Thanks for sharing 😊

    • 30daysV Reply

      August 16, 2016 at 11:00

      Thanks, Melinda. I think you’re totally right!

  3. Fiona Bennett Reply

    August 16, 2016 at 6:40

    That’s a brilliant, thought provoking post, thank you. I feel the same, I blog about being a mother and am paranoid about sharing too much information about them for lots of reasons but mainly in case they hate me later for something I shared. Your image at the top is fantastic, it made me chuckle.

    • 30daysV Reply

      August 16, 2016 at 11:03

      Fiona, thank YOU (again!) for your kind words.
      I didn’t even think about that – kids hating me later, lol! Apparently, it happens regardless 😛
      FYI – all the images I’ve used are from

  4. Julia Skinner Reply

    August 16, 2016 at 10:21

    I’m sure you are not alone. I’m always a bit nervous of pressing ‘click’ just in case. Think of it as being a writer which means unless you are a ‘no-one but me’ diarist you need an audience and that means sharing!

    • 30daysV Reply

      August 16, 2016 at 11:06

      Julia – yes, great point. trying to embrace what i tell my kids: sharing means caring.
      (and i still close my eyes when i hit ‘send’ on a mass email at work)

  5. Mystic Ransdell Reply

    August 16, 2016 at 11:53

    I completely understand. Being public with my name when I write is something I am only beginning to do. I am public in social media, but that’s with people I consider friends. Blogging is scarier. It’s putting your SELF out there, and being a shy introvert, it’s not something that comes naturally to me.

    Blogging under a mystery name is something I did a lot of. I even have a book published on Kindle…not under my own name. I say – if doing it this way helps you to share your truths – do it. Allowing others to hear your voice is good for them, and for you. WTG on finding a way to do it. Very enjoyable reading!

    • 30daysV Reply

      August 16, 2016 at 11:08

      you DO completely understand. thank you so much for this comment!

  6. Irene Reply

    August 16, 2016 at 12:35

    I am like you, except I can’t list the reasons why I prefer things this way. I don’t even have social media accounts like twitter, instagram, whatsapp, etc. (amazing huh?) and I still rarely post on Facebook. I am glad those stuff I posted in Groups (eg. 30 Blogging Challenge) do not appear on my friends’ feed.

    I don’t think it’s absolutely necessary to reveal your real identity for blogging purposes. Nevertheless, I am learning to be more open and sociable.

    • 30daysV Reply

      August 16, 2016 at 11:10

      wow, pretty amazing you’re app free! instagram is life.
      and i was wondering if it appeared on my Facebook friends’ feed! thanks for confirming. lol.

  7. Carmella Reply

    August 16, 2016 at 10:17

    I loved it. I too am new to blogging. I haven’t even published one yet, although it’s on the way. Thanks for being so courageous. You’re giving me hope.

    • 30daysV Reply

      August 16, 2016 at 11:16

      thank YOU, Carmella. This comment makes sharing my journey worthwhile.

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  10. Cat Michaels Reply

    August 17, 2016 at 7:52

    I was terrified when I started blogging three years ago as part of my platform as a Kid Lit author. Some bloggers are totally open kimono, but I separate my uber-private self from my writerly personae. However, I get the most engagement (and feel most satisfied!) when I am honest and authentic. The good news is that gets easier to be “out there” over time, and you’ve taken the most difficult step of all — getting started. btw….Love your post image!

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  12. Grace Reply

    January 26, 2017 at 11:24

    headshot please!

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