MARRIAGE: Day 28-30 of 30 – Boy, Bye!

Boy, Bye!

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This is the last 3 days of the 30 Day Marriage Challenge, and I’m so happy.  Happy that it’s finally over! It’s disappointing that I was so excited going into this challenge and that it quickly went downhill before I even hit the half-way mark.  I half-assed Days 28, 29 and 30.

Day 28
Look at him admiringly. Make sure he sees you looking at him.

I do this often because I find it funny when I awkwardly flirt with him.

Day 29
Turn off the electronics – phone, TV, tablet, etc. 

Easy enough for me. Impossible for him. So I did my part.

Day 30
Today’s focus: LOVE

Today I leave for Paris, and it’s the first time in a long time that I’m leaving my husband and the kids.  So it was definitely a day full of hugs, kisses and a lot of “I’m going to miss you!”

I chose the iMom’s version of the Marriage Challenge because the tasks seemed most realistic, but now I see that I should’ve gone with a version that seemed impractical because they would be more challenging and possibly more fun.  Perhaps they would’ve made more of an impact.

My goals going into the challenge were:

  • To complete it in 30 days

It took me 31 days because I was trying to be extra kind 😇

  • To do each task genuinely

I felt I fulfilled each task, as mundane as they were 🤷🏼‍♀️

  • Be honest to you with every post

I been telling you how I’m honestly unsatisfied. 😕

CHALLENGE: MARRIAGE – ✔️ COMPLETED

 

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MARRIAGE: Day 25-27 of 30 – This Lacks Excitement

This Lacks Excitement

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I tried to be more positive with Days 25, 26 and 27 of the 30 Day Marriage Challenge but I can’t help but still feel bored with these tasks.  At least they’re are a bit more interactive.

Day 25
Ask your husband’s opinion on something. 

Sure I ask for my husband’s opinion, but it’s supposed to be the same as mine.
Kidding! (Not kidding.)

I had a simple question this Saturday – “What do you want to do with the kids today?” And I went along with his suggestion, no arguments. It’s actually nice to not be a planner/coordinator once in awhile.

Day 26
Encourage your husband.

I’m leaving in a few days and will be gone for a week. So today I gave him a run-down of the kids’ daily schedule, which is different every single day. And I encouraged him that he will be a great substitute mom. But honestly, good luck!

Day 27
Do something for his health – ie. eat better and exercise together. 

One of our biggest struggles is deciding what to eat and the worst part is that neither of us cooks.  He usually ends up ordering Chinese take-out for himself, while the kids and I survive on whatever I whip up.  Tonight, I told him to pick any baked chicken recipe he wants me to attempt and I cooked for him. That alone is already a healthier option than fried chicken with white rice.

I’m bummed that I’m looking forward to this challenge to be over. I was really excited to do a Marriage challenge and my excitement has waned with each passing day.  On the bright side, great things are going on here at home that we don’t really need these tasks to test our marriage’s strength.

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MARRIAGE: Day 22-24 of 30 – This is Boring

This is Boring

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I don’t know what it says, about me or about this challenge, but Days 22, 23, and 24 were boring to me.  I picked a 30 Day Marriage Challenge that I believed to be realistic, but maybe I should’ve chosen one that was more out-of-the-box and made this more challenging regardless of how impractical some of the tasks seem to be. Anyways, here we go…

Day 22
Assume the best about your husband.

I don’t have to assume.

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Day 23
Treat him with respect today

Everyday.

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Day 24
Do not interrupt your husband when he’s talking.

I practice what I preach to my kids – don’t interrupt.

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I don’t have the perfect marriage, but faith, respect, and courtesy are #basic. We wouldn’t still be married if these fundamental elements of a relationship (for any relationship!) didn’t exist.  I hope the next 3 days of the 30 Day Marriage Challenge are more demanding. Stay tuned and find out…

 

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MARRIAGE: Day 19-21 of 30 – I’m a Better Wife Because I’m a Mom

I’m a Better Wife Because I’m a Mom

My role as a wife and a mom is blurred. On Days 19, 20, and 21 of the 30 Day Marriage Challenge I discovered that being a mom makes me a better wife.  As a mom I have to do things myself if I want things done. I have to have patience if I want to teach. And I have to forgive if I want to love. As a wife…

Day 19
Don’t ask him to do any chores or honey-dos.

Besides making money to pay the bills, his “chore” is taking out the trash. Mostly because I prefer not to go outside. During the nice months, he takes it upon himself to do the outside work. So, I don’t have to ask him to do anything.  I do, however, leave hints. Today, no hints. 😉

As for the “honey-do” list, I had never heard of this until recently.  I know I’m not the only woman out there who also plays the role of handy[wo]man in their house. I may need him for the heavy-lifting, but I’m usually the one with a screwdriver, hammer, caulk, snake or plunger.  When we started building our house, he even bought me a drill.  I love to DIY.

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Day 20
Today’s focus: Patience

I’m a very patient person. However, I lose it when my husband’s driving. I have zero patience for his inconsiderate driving – from unnecessary lane changes, to cutting people off, to merging last minute to exit. It drives me nuts, and I’m not quiet about it. Unfortunately, today was a day we commuted to work together. To distract myself from being a passenger-seat driver, I closed my mouth and focused on liking and commenting on Instagram – come join me.

Day 21
Forgive him when he makes a mistake.

Is it possible, he hasn’t made a mistake today (yet)? Regardless, whatever trivial mistake he would make, I’m generally a forgiving person. I will let him know I think he made a mistake.  But I learned long ago that forgiveness is easier than staying angry. I will end this post like yesterday, with a quote:

“Forgiving someone may cost you your pride, but not forgiving them will cost you your freedom.” Because holding onto anger only hurts you, not them. Speak your piece. Then have peace. 

Most wives will say they have a man-child as a husband or include their husband in the # of children. I am one of those.  However, the skills I’ve grown to improve as a mom are helping my marriage.

Super mom. Super wife. Super woman.

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