BLOGGING 20/30: I’ve Never Really Dated

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 20 of 30

I’ve Never Really Dated

So I missed putting up a post yesterday, but for good reason.  After a full day at the office and a late dinner, I had to complete a job interview task which took me time to prepare and send. I was honestly bummed that I didn’t have enough hours in the day to also fit in a 30 Day Blogging Challenge post, but alas, I needed sleep to deal with my little boy who has decided that he doesn’t need sleep. As I go through another interview process, I often compare it to dating.  Which is ironic since I never really dated.

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As I mentioned in my 30 Random Facts post, I’ve been with my guy for almost two decades. So my brief experience with real-life grown-up dating was right before college with the guy who is now my husband, and we were barely grown ups.

I do, however, have plenty of girlfriends and have lived the dating life vicariously through them.  The searching. The meeting. The getting-to-know you.  The lust.  The (maybe) love.  The possibilities. The ambivalence. The heartbreak.  The end.  The letting go.  The looking back and laughing about it. Since trying to get back into the workplace after taking time off to be a stay-at-home mom, I feel dating and job searching are similar quests.

During my time “alone” (without a job), I worked on myself.  I took classes, exercised (my brain) and worked at improving myself. I searched and searched (job sites).  I created a (LinkedIn) profile of myself that made me look both intelligent and attractive (as a potential employee). I’ve had phone and face-to-face “dates” (interviews).  I  decided to commit to one (job) because it seemed perfect.  I “dated” it for two months and realized that we weren’t a good fit and that I didn’t see myself in it for the long run.  So, I had to break up with it.  It was a very hard decision and I felt very embarrassed,  but we had a talk (and I gave my letter of resignation). We’re taking it slow though with the good-bye and I still go back a few days a week (they asked me to freelance).  But… I’m officially on the hunt again.

Sometimes I feel like blogging is my mistress.


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BLOGGING 19/30: Almost Broke My Blogger Promise

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 19 of 30

Almost Broke My Blogger Promise

Today was one of those days, where I’m ready to curl up in my covers and say good bye to another fun Monday (*eyeroll*).  I laughed at myself, as I got ready break the promise of blogging after just writing a post that I wouldn’t be THAT person.  Then I saw my next hour flash before me – still laying in bed, scrolling through nonsense on my phone going down rabbit holes. So I snapped myself up and started reviewing (and commenting on!) the latest posts on the 30 Day Blogging Challenge Facebook group page and got inspired by my peers.  What did me in were some quotes.

The blog and post I came across was by and the first sentence alone woke me up: “Don’t despair when doors seem to close that were once open. Be aware instead that it may be a blessing in disguise for  new opportunities to just show up out of the blue.”

I’ve always loved inspirational quotes. Two Instagram accounts I follow are ThinkGrowProsper and SelfLoveMantras and every day they perk up my mood. Like horoscopes, you read it and shape it to fit whatever you’re going through. Three things are going on for me at this moment – job searching, attempt at blogging, getting out of my rut. Even though I’m “too blessed to be stressed” (a quote that always makes me smirk), I find these little words of wisdom help me push away my “stinking thinking” (from another 30 Day Blogger post, K’Lee Banks)

So here are some recent posts that are helping me through, and I hope they kickstart something in you too.

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BLOGGING 18/30: I Break Promises

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 18 of 30

I Break Promises

Today’s 30 Day Blogging Challenge tasks is about making a promise, which as a parent I do all the time and break!

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I promise my kids that they’ll get something, that I’ll do something, that we’ll go somewhere… just to get them to cooperate with whatever I need them to do for me at that moment. And if I don’t follow through, they will call me out on it. In my mind it’s not a promise, it’s a compromise and not that serious. But there is it… right in the word: comPROMISE.

They might be kids, but they’re teaching ME things about life, constantly.  What lesson am I teaching them by not doing what I say?! I preach to them about consistency, and about keeping your word, and not lying. Yet, here I am on what I feel is a minuscule scale, not delivering on my end. But regardless of the degree of promise, there are consequences.  What happens when I don’t follow through? Distrust. Loss of credibility. Uncooperativeness. Reciprocal disappointing behavior.

Now, I’m being a bit dramatic in order to prove a point.  Truth is, more often than not, I do what I say I will and my kids know this. But when I forget, I never forget how it feels that I let them down.

As a blogger, there’s a fundamental promise we give our readers… that we will provide informative, entertaining, quality content, consistently.  My promise is to happily compromise my time for yours. I’ve stopped following bloggers because their content didn’t evolve.  Or because their personality became too sponsored. Or simply because they stopped posting.  I would hate to be THAT blogger, because I would never forget how it would feel to fail at yet another 30 Day Challenge.  So, see you for Day#19!


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BLOGGING 17/30: More “About Me”

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 17 of 30

More “About Me”

Today’s daily task is to focus on the “About Me” page.  It was the first page I wrote, and reading it over now I feel like it’s all still applicable and relevant. As a person who wants to keep my private life private, I think I’m sharing just enough.  There’s actually nothing about my About Me page I want to change.  But don’t readers always want to know more about who’s writing?

My favorite YouTube videos are the Getting to Know Me, Q&A’s, and even What’s in my Purse. I’m nosey!  So today, in keeping with my blog theme, I give you 30 Random Facts About Me I feel safe sharing.

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  1. my friends call me V
  2. I’m a Sagittarius
  3. my favorite color is purple
  4. anything on BravoTV is my guilty pleasure
  5. my pet peeve is when the toilet lid isn’t down
  6. my favorite singer is Bruno Mars
  7. the last concert I went to was Beyonce
  8. I believe in music therapy
  9. I prefer shopping for clothes online
  10. I hate wearing high heels but own some fabulous pairs
  11. I’m a low-grade hoarder
  12. I’ve been with my husband (dating+married) for almost 2 decades
  13. we tore down and rebuilt the house I grew up in
  14. I don’t mind driving long distances and prefer to do it at night
  15. I have an oddly good sense of direction which is useful when we’re on vacation
  16. I’ve always wanted 2kids- 1boy/1girl… and that’s what I have now
  17. last year I was a PTA class parent
  18. we’re going to be the TMNT for halloween. I was left with being Raphael – the angry one.
  19. I’m not a dog-lover but wish I were
  20. I wish I were a runner (future 30 Day Challenge?!)
  21. I don’t know how to swim
  22. I don’t like dill, cucumbers, or ginger
  23. I have a major sweet tooth
  24. my hair is always in a mom-bun
  25. I don’t like red wine – chardonnay is my drink of choice.
  26. I was Class President my freshman year of college
  27. I studied abroad for a semester (Hong Kong)
  28. I graduated early from college, unintentionally
  29. I was with my last employer for over 10years
  30. I think I’ve kinda always wanted to blog


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BLOGGING 16/30: Taking Time Off

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 16 of 30

Taking Time Off

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I didn’t quit the 30 Day Blogging Challenge after just getting half-way through! I just took some time off.

I purposely decided to use the time I would normally write a post and spent it learning instead.  As I said in Day #15, “blogging about trying to blog doesn’t change much in my 24hours.” I have so much to learn about blogging if I’m going to be blogging about blogging.  (Did you follow all that?)  So, I allowed myself only 3 nights self-educate.  I ended up only taking 2. But here’s what I worked on:


When I created this website I also went ahead and made an associated Facebook page, but haven’t done anything with it. So Night1 was trying to figure out how to auto-publish posts from WordPress to Facebook. Following suggestions from google searches I tried the Facebook plugin, which was too confusing and took me longer than I liked. Then I tried Jetpack, which was easy but too expansive for my needs.  Then I finally came across a wonderful YouTube channel that recommended the AccessPress Facebook plugin, and I was good to go!


Since day1 of creating this blog I’ve been trying to learn WordPress through trial-and-error. So on Night2 I went about searching and reading up on tips and tricks of WordPress. Specifically, things you must be doing as a blogger. And just as important, things you should not be doing. I somehow ended up back at the same wonderful YouTube channel focused on the ins and outs of WordPress and must recommend it.  Check her out: WebTegrity.


It didn’t dawn on me until I was scrolling through WebTegrity’s videos that I should take the time to understand the Yoast plugin better and improve what I’ve been entering into the snippet editor.  One of Sark eMedia’s first suggestions for this 30 Day Blogging Challege was to use this SEO tool in order to optimize each post. WebTegrity has a 4part series on how to use it, and I’m so happy I came across it. I thought I knew what I was doing, but there was a lot of room for improvement.

I know there’s so much more to learn but I didn’t feel like continuing with Night3.  Instead I wanted to write this post!  I’m glad the first 30 Day challenge I chose for my blog is Blogging and that I took the past 2nights off to expand my knowledge on the above topics.  I will put them to the test for the remaining 15 days of this Blogging Challenge.


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BLOGGING 15/30: Challenges of This Challenge

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 15 of 30

Challenges of This Challenge

I’m half way through the 30 Day Blogging Challenge!

I think this a good time to pause and evaluate my experience so far and pinpoint my hurdles so I can focus on overcoming them during the second half. I’m not going to rewrite my biggest challenge, you can read it here.  I’m going to focus more on the logistics.

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  1. Photos – not ready to pay for “free” images
    • I’ve tried so hard to find a photo that captures my message for each post.  Yesterday, I failed.  My go-to,, didn’t have the image I wanted and the other sites required subscription, which I’m not ready to commit to.  Being in advertising I knew about licenses and the requirements for that industry, but it’s still an area I need to understand better. I’m glad that one of Sark eMedia reference emails regarding this topic.
  2. Commenting – be a better neighbor
    • I wrote about this in a previous blog, and I’ve tried to comment on at least one new blog a day since. This forces me to check out other bloggers’ site and to find ones with intriging content and style that I can get inspired by too. But I still find myself hesitating. This includes being a better participant on the 30 Day Blogging Facebook Group Page.
  3. Post topics – I’m blogging about blogging
    • I have a editorial calendar as my planning and writing process, and I’m constantly editing it in an effort to have the posts flow day-to-day.  But blogging about trying to blog doesn’t change much in my 24hours.  I’ve done a good job making the time to write each night, but I haven’t made the time to learn new things, ie. WordPress, Facebook, SEO writing that will improve the credibility of this blog I’m trying to establish. Then I can start writing about what I’m doing versus what I’ve been scared of doing.

I’ve personally felt like I’ve stumbled over a few hurdles already and at times was ready to stop.  But like Haiti in the 110m semifinals at the recent Olympics (who completely faltered on the first hurdle! video here), I’m going to finish! I’m going to keep taking on my personal blogging hurdles and make myself proud.


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BLOGGING 14/30: Funny How Things Work Out

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 14 of 30

Funny How Things Work Out

I’ve mentioned this guy before – my husband. I wrote about how he’s my support team – both my emotional support and technical support. The funny thing is most of the time he isn’t doing anything.  But I’m not saying this in the tone of a bitter wife. I’m actually commending him, that he doesn’t go out of his way to be my cheerleader about blogging or to make sure things look perfect on this website.  He just lets me be.

What made me think to include him in this post today was watching him on this new toy his bought – a motorized skateboard. While most people might joke that this is mid-life crisis purchase, it’s absolutely the opposite. He’s such a kid at heart and doesn’t care what people think; and trust me – this thing looks ridiculous. He enjoys life, says what he feels, and does what he wants.  It doesn’t always work out initially, but it doesn’t matter, because it works out eventually.

“Opposites attract” is live and strong in our relationship. I think I was born with an old soul; I’ve been serious since I was a kid. My skin has thickened over the years, but I care what people think. I care how I come across (except in the morning when I’m dropping off my kids at school). I definitely take into consideration other people’s feelings and opinions. I try to be careful and thoughtful with my words.  I’m a planner by nature and need to go by a calendar. It doesn’t always work out initially, but it doesn’t matter, because it works out eventually.

Even though he doesn’t ask me how blogging is going and doesn’t check to see how he could help with improving the site, I don’t mind. I think it’s because we both know – it’ll work out eventually.

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BLOGGING 13/30: Yoga for My Brain

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 13 of 30

Yoga for My Brain 30 Day Challenge Accepted 13 As a kid I had a diary – until my brother found it, broke into it, read it and ridiculed me. For a summer I had pen pals.  In middle school and high school I had a notebook with my best friends – instead of passing notes, we would pass our spiral notebook back-and-forth. In college, emails became the norm, and for years that was my main form of communication – long emails with my girlfriends.  Then texting took over, and I can have deep conversations on that too. On day 13 of this Blogging Challenge, I come to realize that I like the process of writing. It’s like yoga for my thoughts – a practice of taking  it in and letting it go.

As a parent, your social life basically revolves around kid’s stuff.  School. Martial Arts. Dance. Music. Sports. Birthday parties. Baby showers. Playdates. I actually make the effort to schedule event-free weekends so we can have boring time at at home, as a family – just us, not having to rush off somewhere.  This weekend was NOT one of those.  But not one night did I make it an excuse not to battle a day of this Blog Challenge.  I wanted to write. I wanted to do my daily exercise.

The practice of gathering my thoughts, figuring out the structure of how to express a message, organizing the sentences so that they’re coherent, and all while attempting to keep a reader’s interest. It’s like a workout for my brain. I warm-up, start slow and then get into it, find my stride, then have to start winding down, stretch, reflect and give appreciation at the end. Namaste. And like a true workout, I feel good once I’m done – once I publish a post.  Even after, I think about how I could improve. And like my previous 12 posts, I know I’ll be reading this one over, and over, making sure I did my best today.


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BLOGGING 12/30: Drunk Blogging

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 12 of 30

Drunk Blogging

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To be clear, I’m not drunk. I did have a glass (or two) of wine after a long day and a long overdue date night. But it made me think about drunk texting, which I’ve never done – at least nothing embarrassing enough to remember.

Alcohol is sometimes called a truth serum or liquid courage. It lowers your inhibitions. That’s definitely the case for me.  My tongue becomes a bit looser, but it most cases (I think) I’m still able to maintain “control”.

Tonight I wondered if drunk blogging is a phenomenon as well.  Does it happen? Is there an app to prevent bloggers from writing incoherent and regrettable posts? Not that I need it. 😉


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BLOGGING 11/30: My Motivation: A Tutu-Wearing Rock Climber

BLOGGING Challenge: Day 11 of 30

My Motivation: A Tutu-Wearing Rock Climber

Sure, there are things my daughter is scared of, or pretends to be scared of, like any typical kid –  lighting storms, dark rooms, strangers, and new food.  But otherwise, she’s the bravest little person I know.

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Today while at the playground watching her swing across the monkey bars (then up the rock wall, then through a rope wall) with such ease, I remembered an Instagram post from a few weeks back.  It was a photo of her in a tutu, rock climbing… my caption: “When I need inspiration or motivation, I just need to look at my tutu-wearing rock-climbing daughter.” She is the reason I want to better myself and look for ways to explore ways to improve, like doing 30 Day Challenges.

As a toddler, climbing furniture and jumping from anything with height, there was little that would stop her.  She didn’t think anything would hurt her.  Even now, when we challenge her brain or braun, she goes in with unrestraint and majestic confidence. If she does get hurt, after the tears dry up, she shows off her new booboo to whoever will listen – proud of how she got it.

Inevitably as she goes through her childhood and the teen years this will slowly be replaced with insecurities, peer pressure, and the expectancy to conform. It makes me wish I could bottle this fearlessness up and make her drink it later in life when she has moments of self-doubt.  Heck, I want a sip of it now.


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